I am very sorry that your emotions are being played with at the moment!
Here is what I think: Your boyfriend needs/wants to explore other options but refuses to let go of the one secure thing he has in his life (YOU!)
Don't get me wrong, I definitely think he has strong feelings for you but if this situation continues, the only one who will ultimately end up hurt is you. As hard as this whole ordeal must be for you at the moment, let him go. I know that he started as a friend, but now there are stronger feelings that cannot be separated from the friendship and therefore the whole relationship has to be terminated. This is coming from someone whose best friend experienced an almost identical situation to yours-- but she couldn't let go and ultimately, he did it to her 4 times before finally breaking it off completely. So, when I write this to you-- I feel like I'm talking to her and I wish she would've listened.
I'm sure you've heard the phrase "If you love something let it go, if it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was" Well, that's what you need to follow--for your own sake. Let this guy go, let him explore, let him be 20. You do the same. After 4, 6, 8 months if he still loves you he will call you. But make sure that he never does this to you again. If he does, then he is not ready to be with someone who truly does love him and is just waiting for the next best thing.
As hard as it may be, letting go is the best thing to do sometimes. It prepares us for the worst, while leaving some hope for the best.
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Dear Anon,
I am very sorry that your emotions are being played with at the moment!
Here is what I think: Your boyfriend needs/wants to explore other options but refuses to let go of the one secure thing he has in his life (YOU!)
Don't get me wrong, I definitely think he has strong feelings for you but if this situation continues, the only one who will ultimately end up hurt is you. As hard as this whole ordeal must be for you at the moment, let him go. I know that he started as a friend, but now there are stronger feelings that cannot be separated from the friendship and therefore the whole relationship has to be terminated. This is coming from someone whose best friend experienced an almost identical situation to yours-- but she couldn't let go and ultimately, he did it to her 4 times before finally breaking it off completely. So, when I write this to you-- I feel like I'm talking to her and I wish she would've listened.
I'm sure you've heard the phrase "If you love something let it go, if it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was" Well, that's what you need to follow--for your own sake. Let this guy go, let him explore, let him be 20. You do the same. After 4, 6, 8 months if he still loves you he will call you. But make sure that he never does this to you again. If he does, then he is not ready to be with someone who truly does love him and is just waiting for the next best thing.
As hard as it may be, letting go is the best thing to do sometimes. It prepares us for the worst, while leaving some hope for the best.
Good luck to you Anon.
March 28, 2010 - 6:48amThis Comment
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