I am going through my worst nightmare since Friday. I am very phobic of STD's and have only been sexual with my husband since we got married in 2013. I've had several vaginal exams done between 2012-2014 because of a few fibroids that eventually led to a hysterectomy. I've never had any symptoms of any infections (UTI, Yeast, etc). I've been tested for STDs in 2014 and everything was negative. Again, I have never been with another man other than my husband since 2013. (Before him I ALWAYS made the gentleman wear a condom).
Because I had a hysterectomy I wasn't aware that I had to continue to have pelvic exams yearly. When I was informed that I did, I made an appointment and saw my dr to get it done. He asked if I wanted to have an STD screening done while he is examining me, at first I said no, there was no need since we are married and my last tests were negative and I haven't been with anyone but him. Then I said just go ahead, I know I'm negative, and maybe having the tests done will just be something I can say I did and put it behind me. Well, after the exam was done, he said everything looked great and my ovary was normal, he sent me off to complete the STD screening (blood work), and he will send in the vaginal swab test and have that tested as well. No big deal, whatever you gotta do I'm okay with. I'll see ya next year.
Well, Friday came and I get a call from the doctor himself telling me that all my results came back negative except for one. I have Trich. Not knowing what that was, he explained that it is a bacterial infection containing a parasite that you can only get with having unprotected sex with someone who got it from someone else during unprotected sex and that I had only just got it because I have no symptoms and they only found a trace of it. I said well, I only have sex with my husband and if what you're saying is true then he must have cheated on me. Being at work while this call came in was so hard to keep from losing it emotionally. On my lunch break I called my husband and asked him to pick up a prescription for me. He asked questions that I wasn't prepared to answer. But after grilling me I caved and told him I got an std and I am freaking out and don't know what to think. Immediately he got upset and said he never cheated on me and that I had to have cheated. He said he is going to make an appointment himself and get tested. I told him that we had sex 6 times over the course of two weeks and it's not going to change his results, he will test positive, because if I have it, the dr said he is going to test positive. He said he is going to get tested anyway.
He got tested on Mon and got his results today. I'm in shock, his results are negative!!! What in the world? How? I called my doctor this morning, and he said, it's possible you could've had a false positive result, we should have you come back in and test again, this has happened before and the second test has shown a negative result, why this happens is always a mystery. I said I can't, I already took the medication the day you called my prescription in. It's going to show negative now. He said well, then we will never know the answer, but you took the medication so you're safe from the infection now. What? That's his answer? What about my marriage? We are no longer the close and loving people we were prior to this test result. He thinks I am unfaithful and I think he is unfaithful (could he have taken meds knowing his affair had it, and now his results are negative?). How am I positive and he is negative and yet we have been having unprotected sex up until my test and the day after my test? Someone please help explain this to me. I am an emotional mess over this and about to lose my marriage over it.
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I am going through my worst nightmare since Friday. I am very phobic of STD's and have only been sexual with my husband since we got married in 2013. I've had several vaginal exams done between 2012-2014 because of a few fibroids that eventually led to a hysterectomy. I've never had any symptoms of any infections (UTI, Yeast, etc). I've been tested for STDs in 2014 and everything was negative. Again, I have never been with another man other than my husband since 2013. (Before him I ALWAYS made the gentleman wear a condom).
May 2, 2017 - 8:24pmBecause I had a hysterectomy I wasn't aware that I had to continue to have pelvic exams yearly. When I was informed that I did, I made an appointment and saw my dr to get it done. He asked if I wanted to have an STD screening done while he is examining me, at first I said no, there was no need since we are married and my last tests were negative and I haven't been with anyone but him. Then I said just go ahead, I know I'm negative, and maybe having the tests done will just be something I can say I did and put it behind me. Well, after the exam was done, he said everything looked great and my ovary was normal, he sent me off to complete the STD screening (blood work), and he will send in the vaginal swab test and have that tested as well. No big deal, whatever you gotta do I'm okay with. I'll see ya next year.
Well, Friday came and I get a call from the doctor himself telling me that all my results came back negative except for one. I have Trich. Not knowing what that was, he explained that it is a bacterial infection containing a parasite that you can only get with having unprotected sex with someone who got it from someone else during unprotected sex and that I had only just got it because I have no symptoms and they only found a trace of it. I said well, I only have sex with my husband and if what you're saying is true then he must have cheated on me. Being at work while this call came in was so hard to keep from losing it emotionally. On my lunch break I called my husband and asked him to pick up a prescription for me. He asked questions that I wasn't prepared to answer. But after grilling me I caved and told him I got an std and I am freaking out and don't know what to think. Immediately he got upset and said he never cheated on me and that I had to have cheated. He said he is going to make an appointment himself and get tested. I told him that we had sex 6 times over the course of two weeks and it's not going to change his results, he will test positive, because if I have it, the dr said he is going to test positive. He said he is going to get tested anyway.
He got tested on Mon and got his results today. I'm in shock, his results are negative!!! What in the world? How? I called my doctor this morning, and he said, it's possible you could've had a false positive result, we should have you come back in and test again, this has happened before and the second test has shown a negative result, why this happens is always a mystery. I said I can't, I already took the medication the day you called my prescription in. It's going to show negative now. He said well, then we will never know the answer, but you took the medication so you're safe from the infection now. What? That's his answer? What about my marriage? We are no longer the close and loving people we were prior to this test result. He thinks I am unfaithful and I think he is unfaithful (could he have taken meds knowing his affair had it, and now his results are negative?). How am I positive and he is negative and yet we have been having unprotected sex up until my test and the day after my test? Someone please help explain this to me. I am an emotional mess over this and about to lose my marriage over it.
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