Hi,
Have you thought about the possibility that maybe you two aren't meant for each other in the long run? I know relationships are so difficult when you feel in your hear that you are "meant" for each other, but if you are already experiencing these types of low's in the relationship...it is at least time to take a few steps back. This is not normal behavior for young and new relationships (I know it does not feel new, like you've known each other forever, but I'm comparing "new" to being married for decades).
One response I've seen other women provide as very helpful: take time for yourself. If he is fiddling with online games and such, find some things you enjoy without your boyfriend. EIther way, it will do you a world of good (if you stay together or break up). Really concentrate on yourself: what you enjoy, what you excel in.
Take moving-in together off the table. If you are meant to move-in together, then taking time for yourselves will not ruin the relationship. Promise. If the relationship does not thrive with both of you taking time to yourself, then it was not meant to be. Still spend quality time together, but talk with him about your concerns that moving in may be stressing you two out. It makes perfect sense that you have this huge upcoming change ahead of you...and both of you are not performing and/or responding sexually to each other like you used to. The remedy: take the outside pressures, timelines, deadlines and stressors out of the equation to see how your relationship progresses.
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Hi,
Have you thought about the possibility that maybe you two aren't meant for each other in the long run? I know relationships are so difficult when you feel in your hear that you are "meant" for each other, but if you are already experiencing these types of low's in the relationship...it is at least time to take a few steps back. This is not normal behavior for young and new relationships (I know it does not feel new, like you've known each other forever, but I'm comparing "new" to being married for decades).
One response I've seen other women provide as very helpful: take time for yourself. If he is fiddling with online games and such, find some things you enjoy without your boyfriend. EIther way, it will do you a world of good (if you stay together or break up). Really concentrate on yourself: what you enjoy, what you excel in.
Take moving-in together off the table. If you are meant to move-in together, then taking time for yourselves will not ruin the relationship. Promise. If the relationship does not thrive with both of you taking time to yourself, then it was not meant to be. Still spend quality time together, but talk with him about your concerns that moving in may be stressing you two out. It makes perfect sense that you have this huge upcoming change ahead of you...and both of you are not performing and/or responding sexually to each other like you used to. The remedy: take the outside pressures, timelines, deadlines and stressors out of the equation to see how your relationship progresses.
November 21, 2010 - 2:56pmThis Comment
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