I'm sorry you are in this situation. It sounds like you are confessing to some pretty difficult behaviors, though. Have you ever had any type of therapy or counseling or seen a psychiatrist? The behaviors you are describing are not typical behaviors in a healthy marriage.
I'm going to give you a little tough love here, because I think you need it. I suggest you find a therapist as soon as possible. The behaviors you are describing are probably affecting all of your relationships. Would you want to be on the receiving end of these tantrums or controlling behaviors? Have you put yourself in your husband's place?
Even if he is leaving you, you have a life to live. Something seems to be stopping you. If you get into some counseling, you may be able to learn how to be less afraid of losing control, and that will make you feel so much better. You must be able to feel happy within yourself in order to live a peaceful life, you know? It sounds like your husband may be beyond wanting couples counseling, although it is definitely worth asking him. Maybe if he sees you are serious about getting some help for your out of control behavior, he will give it a chance.
But if he is leaving, you still have a life to lead. If you can get to the bottom of your control issues and learn to change them, you will be much happier and your life in general will be better. You can't change anyone else, but you can change yourself and the way you react to situations. Counseling can help you let go of the fear and feel more confident on your own.
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Hi Rabbit-
I'm sorry you are in this situation. It sounds like you are confessing to some pretty difficult behaviors, though. Have you ever had any type of therapy or counseling or seen a psychiatrist? The behaviors you are describing are not typical behaviors in a healthy marriage.
I'm going to give you a little tough love here, because I think you need it. I suggest you find a therapist as soon as possible. The behaviors you are describing are probably affecting all of your relationships. Would you want to be on the receiving end of these tantrums or controlling behaviors? Have you put yourself in your husband's place?
Even if he is leaving you, you have a life to live. Something seems to be stopping you. If you get into some counseling, you may be able to learn how to be less afraid of losing control, and that will make you feel so much better. You must be able to feel happy within yourself in order to live a peaceful life, you know? It sounds like your husband may be beyond wanting couples counseling, although it is definitely worth asking him. Maybe if he sees you are serious about getting some help for your out of control behavior, he will give it a chance.
But if he is leaving, you still have a life to lead. If you can get to the bottom of your control issues and learn to change them, you will be much happier and your life in general will be better. You can't change anyone else, but you can change yourself and the way you react to situations. Counseling can help you let go of the fear and feel more confident on your own.
Good luck to you.
April 18, 2010 - 7:16amThis Comment
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