Let me be direct here: Why are you there? Why did you two get back together? I don't hear that you love each other, I don't even hear that you like each other. You sound kind of like roommates who aren't happy living together.
I think counseling for you is an excellent idea. It is important to find out why you are willing to settle for a relationship that obviously does not make you happy. This is about far more than how anyone looks. It sounds like the sex issue is a symptom of a bigger problem, not the problem itself.
Think about why you came back to him, why he came back to you, and why, if you are so unhappy, you are still there. I think your answers are in those questions somewhere. Then go to the counselor so you can find out why you put your own happiness last, and learn how to make yourself a priority. There is likely some reason you are tolerating bad behavior.
Please don't cheat. I think if you do, you will be setting yourself up for guilt and that will make everything worse. Don't be true for him, do it for yourself and your self-worth.
Hang in there and get the counseling. Let us know how you do. I have been in a similar situation. It sucks and it's hard, but you can do this. You can be your happy self again. Good luck.
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Hello eg146-
Let me be direct here: Why are you there? Why did you two get back together? I don't hear that you love each other, I don't even hear that you like each other. You sound kind of like roommates who aren't happy living together.
I think counseling for you is an excellent idea. It is important to find out why you are willing to settle for a relationship that obviously does not make you happy. This is about far more than how anyone looks. It sounds like the sex issue is a symptom of a bigger problem, not the problem itself.
Think about why you came back to him, why he came back to you, and why, if you are so unhappy, you are still there. I think your answers are in those questions somewhere. Then go to the counselor so you can find out why you put your own happiness last, and learn how to make yourself a priority. There is likely some reason you are tolerating bad behavior.
Please don't cheat. I think if you do, you will be setting yourself up for guilt and that will make everything worse. Don't be true for him, do it for yourself and your self-worth.
Hang in there and get the counseling. Let us know how you do. I have been in a similar situation. It sucks and it's hard, but you can do this. You can be your happy self again. Good luck.
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