completely agree with the above- they make it your problem- you want it too much and its unappealling, or its too much pressure on them. them them them. never addressing the issue, always pushing out the blame, which makes it worse cos you don't know how to act- its like when people tell you love comes along when you're least expecting it-you try to be least expecting it all the time, and its like that with no sex. look, hon, no pressure, look, I'm not wanting it. but no, they roll over and go to sleep, and if you CRY oh god don't cry about it cos that's unappealling and off putting, yet you're so frustrated and hurt and insecure by now and you feel ashamed, unsatisfied. It's horribly hard but really, if a partner won't communicate at a level that you need, then doing lots of fun things together which aren't sex isn't going to work. Leaving him and finding a partner who you do fun things with and then when you go to bed its their objective to give you a good time every time is the option. Too many women suffer this abuse and it is abuse, its emotional abuse, physical negligence, and are made to feel hopeless and blamed. and what about the fact you think you love him- we think we love them MORe because we're longing for them all the time,its not balanced love- instead of living/breathing/ having fun/connecting physically and mentally - one is left in a state of aching yearning, dissatisfaction which is NOT YOUR FAULT.
TELL HIM TO SORT THIS, FACE THIS, COMMUNICATE, COME TO A MUTUALLY SATISFACTORY SOLUTION OF YOU WILL LEAVE HIM. Then if he doesn't, leave him. life is too short, and its SO WONDERFUL with a man who cares.
source: bitter bitter years of this sort of hell, then a fantastic partner FINALLY (and I'm not so hot these days, at 45!!)
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completely agree with the above- they make it your problem- you want it too much and its unappealling, or its too much pressure on them. them them them. never addressing the issue, always pushing out the blame, which makes it worse cos you don't know how to act- its like when people tell you love comes along when you're least expecting it-you try to be least expecting it all the time, and its like that with no sex. look, hon, no pressure, look, I'm not wanting it. but no, they roll over and go to sleep, and if you CRY oh god don't cry about it cos that's unappealling and off putting, yet you're so frustrated and hurt and insecure by now and you feel ashamed, unsatisfied. It's horribly hard but really, if a partner won't communicate at a level that you need, then doing lots of fun things together which aren't sex isn't going to work. Leaving him and finding a partner who you do fun things with and then when you go to bed its their objective to give you a good time every time is the option. Too many women suffer this abuse and it is abuse, its emotional abuse, physical negligence, and are made to feel hopeless and blamed. and what about the fact you think you love him- we think we love them MORe because we're longing for them all the time,its not balanced love- instead of living/breathing/ having fun/connecting physically and mentally - one is left in a state of aching yearning, dissatisfaction which is NOT YOUR FAULT.
July 14, 2010 - 10:23amTELL HIM TO SORT THIS, FACE THIS, COMMUNICATE, COME TO A MUTUALLY SATISFACTORY SOLUTION OF YOU WILL LEAVE HIM. Then if he doesn't, leave him. life is too short, and its SO WONDERFUL with a man who cares.
source: bitter bitter years of this sort of hell, then a fantastic partner FINALLY (and I'm not so hot these days, at 45!!)
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