I'm in an extremely similar situation however do not think at all that it's a health issue.
My boyfriend is approaching 40 and me being 10 years younger I am pretty sure that I have a higher sex drive than he does.
I have tried to not 'nag' when he continually denies me sex and sometimes I can just let it go. But it is all the time! And it does start to make me feel as though it's something deeper than just being turned on.
We also used to have a great sexual relationship however since returning from an extremely romantic holiday in July things have changed drastically. I have tried many different ways to instigate it all but everytime he tells me that 'he's not in the mood'; 'is watching tv'; etc.
One day he did say something which I took notice to and that was that he's just not feeling like having sex and it's a phase he hopes to get through quickly.
Do you think that maybe the issue is purely that - that he's just going through a 'phase'?
We've only been together a year but I am really happy with him and I don't want this to be the end of us...
Talking to him doesn't really help because not only does he get defensive but he shuts me out completely, rolls over and won't talk to me at all. He's not an emotional person and battles to talk about feelings etc.
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I'm in an extremely similar situation however do not think at all that it's a health issue.
September 26, 2010 - 5:42amMy boyfriend is approaching 40 and me being 10 years younger I am pretty sure that I have a higher sex drive than he does.
I have tried to not 'nag' when he continually denies me sex and sometimes I can just let it go. But it is all the time! And it does start to make me feel as though it's something deeper than just being turned on.
We also used to have a great sexual relationship however since returning from an extremely romantic holiday in July things have changed drastically. I have tried many different ways to instigate it all but everytime he tells me that 'he's not in the mood'; 'is watching tv'; etc.
One day he did say something which I took notice to and that was that he's just not feeling like having sex and it's a phase he hopes to get through quickly.
Do you think that maybe the issue is purely that - that he's just going through a 'phase'?
We've only been together a year but I am really happy with him and I don't want this to be the end of us...
Talking to him doesn't really help because not only does he get defensive but he shuts me out completely, rolls over and won't talk to me at all. He's not an emotional person and battles to talk about feelings etc.
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