Wow, there's so many of us out there. I never realized that there's so many other woman, suffering like I am. I'm almost 45, and my husband is 41, almost 42. We've been married 2 years. The first year was fine. We didn't have sex as many times as I would've liked, but I'm very aware of the fact that I have a much higher sex drive than anyone else, both males and females. So last summer though, he had an emotional affair. The woman was in a different state and married, so I know that it wasn't physical, but by just him and her talking behind my back, he started sleeping on the couch, took off his wedding ring, told me that he didn't love me anymore, and that he didn't think he wanted to be married anymore. I was devastated and shocked to say the least. At first I didn't know about "her", but then a friend sent me a screenshot of her on his FB page (he had taken me off of it at this point) saying, "Happy birthday babe. I wish I could be there with you to celebrate. I love you.". I was FLOORED, but at the same time everything about what he had been saying and doing suddenly made sense. So during that time, he treated me like shit, but I kept trying to make our marriage work. I spent 5 MONTHS competing with that woman, and begging my husband to love me again. Keep in mind that this was only an emotional affair as they were too far apart and she was married too. If he had psychically cheated, I would've just divorced him. Anyway, during that 5 months, he told me that he is unattracted to me, and that I am fat, ugly, repulsive, etc...Hearing him say those things, cut me to the core. After 5 months, he stopped talking to her, told me he loves me, and that he got his head out of his a** finally. So he's been on a mission to make up to me for how bad he hurt me for the last 6 months. However, we're not having sex. He tells me that he loves me all the time, but I still hurt from him telling me he's unattracted to me. I'm trying to forgive him and move past it all, but how can he love me if he isn't attracted to me??? He tries to tell me that he is, but his never wanting sex with me, proves to me that he really did mean all the nasty things he said. Am I wrong? He says he just said those things out of anger, and that he didn't mean any of it, but if that were true, why doesn't he want to have sex with me?? I am very confused and my heart is shattered. I want our marriage to work out bcuz I love him so much, but how can I get over what he did and the awful things he said? I feel so insecure and like every night we go to bed, and don't have sex, that he's rejecting me all over again. Anyone have any advice for me????
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Wow, there's so many of us out there. I never realized that there's so many other woman, suffering like I am. I'm almost 45, and my husband is 41, almost 42. We've been married 2 years. The first year was fine. We didn't have sex as many times as I would've liked, but I'm very aware of the fact that I have a much higher sex drive than anyone else, both males and females. So last summer though, he had an emotional affair. The woman was in a different state and married, so I know that it wasn't physical, but by just him and her talking behind my back, he started sleeping on the couch, took off his wedding ring, told me that he didn't love me anymore, and that he didn't think he wanted to be married anymore. I was devastated and shocked to say the least. At first I didn't know about "her", but then a friend sent me a screenshot of her on his FB page (he had taken me off of it at this point) saying, "Happy birthday babe. I wish I could be there with you to celebrate. I love you.". I was FLOORED, but at the same time everything about what he had been saying and doing suddenly made sense. So during that time, he treated me like shit, but I kept trying to make our marriage work. I spent 5 MONTHS competing with that woman, and begging my husband to love me again. Keep in mind that this was only an emotional affair as they were too far apart and she was married too. If he had psychically cheated, I would've just divorced him. Anyway, during that 5 months, he told me that he is unattracted to me, and that I am fat, ugly, repulsive, etc...Hearing him say those things, cut me to the core. After 5 months, he stopped talking to her, told me he loves me, and that he got his head out of his a** finally. So he's been on a mission to make up to me for how bad he hurt me for the last 6 months. However, we're not having sex. He tells me that he loves me all the time, but I still hurt from him telling me he's unattracted to me. I'm trying to forgive him and move past it all, but how can he love me if he isn't attracted to me??? He tries to tell me that he is, but his never wanting sex with me, proves to me that he really did mean all the nasty things he said. Am I wrong? He says he just said those things out of anger, and that he didn't mean any of it, but if that were true, why doesn't he want to have sex with me?? I am very confused and my heart is shattered. I want our marriage to work out bcuz I love him so much, but how can I get over what he did and the awful things he said? I feel so insecure and like every night we go to bed, and don't have sex, that he's rejecting me all over again. Anyone have any advice for me????
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