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I am so sorry you are having to make this difficult decision, with no one to talk to (about the details of your pregnancy).

Please know that you will most undoubtedly receive some feedback from others, hopefully from primarily caring people who can talk with you about all of your options in a neutral manner, but I just wanted to let you know when you post "hot topic" messages like this, you will probably receive some very "strong messages" from people who are pro-life and pro-choice. I hope those posting will know this is not a place to debate this (often political) topic.

Torn,
I was wondering what you meant by, "I would have to remove myself from him, and him not play a part of the child's life". Why do you say this?

Please know---I would not even be asking these questions if you simply told us your decision, without this question lingering about you thinking about keeping the baby. If you are wanting to keep the baby, is there a way to raise the child on your own, with the help of family and friends? It would not mean getting back together with this man, but maybe give him the option of knowing? I'm just honestly wondering, but I do realize there are so many situations and people, that you know best. You really do, so please have confidence in yourself.

If you know in your heart that a baby is not the right choice right now, you will absolutely be OK after Tuesday, knowing you made an informed choice. It is wonderful you have this choice, and I hope you are able to confide in at least one person in your life; a friend or family member may surprise you with how supportive they are. Many women have chosen to have abortions, they are sad to even have to make a choice, but you may be surprised that someone you know had to make that choice, too (it is not something commonly shared, as you know).

Please keep talking with us, and we are here with you.