Hi Revai
I am so sad to hear about your situation. I agree this is a situation for professional counseling. I have been there, too.
Sadly I wasted over 20 years with someone like you describe. Your reference to your fiance holding back and then exploding is no way to live.
He must be willing to admit to having problems with communication in a positive, rather than destructive manner. You sound very warm and caring and I believe your fiance is not mature enough for a serious relationship, certainly NOT marriage.
My own experience may be different then yours, I hope so.
My partner wasn't sleeping with me because he suffered from sexual addiction, a complete shock to me. It is more common than most realize. Could it be that your fiance is meeting his needs
via internet pornography and multiple episodes of casual sexual encounters?
My partner was seeing other women from Craig's List
during work hours. Don't be fooled as I was just because you are together every evening. In the first month after I left,
I met 3 other women who found their partner was doing the same thing.
Please make sure your fiance is mature enough to be ready for marriage. If he is not meeting your needs now, it won't get better after marriage. If communication is an issue, I strongly advise
professional help for you, individually, as well as a couple. You
have so many years ahead, no need to rush into an exclusive relationship until both of you are ready.
Pay close attention to your feeling and listen to them.
I'm hearing "Danger" ahead, if you stay
with someone who cannot be open and easy, loving and giving.
Good Luck
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Hi Revai
June 11, 2010 - 7:09pmI am so sad to hear about your situation. I agree this is a situation for professional counseling. I have been there, too.
Sadly I wasted over 20 years with someone like you describe. Your reference to your fiance holding back and then exploding is no way to live.
He must be willing to admit to having problems with communication in a positive, rather than destructive manner. You sound very warm and caring and I believe your fiance is not mature enough for a serious relationship, certainly NOT marriage.
My own experience may be different then yours, I hope so.
My partner wasn't sleeping with me because he suffered from sexual addiction, a complete shock to me. It is more common than most realize. Could it be that your fiance is meeting his needs
via internet pornography and multiple episodes of casual sexual encounters?
My partner was seeing other women from Craig's List
during work hours. Don't be fooled as I was just because you are together every evening. In the first month after I left,
I met 3 other women who found their partner was doing the same thing.
Please make sure your fiance is mature enough to be ready for marriage. If he is not meeting your needs now, it won't get better after marriage. If communication is an issue, I strongly advise
professional help for you, individually, as well as a couple. You
have so many years ahead, no need to rush into an exclusive relationship until both of you are ready.
Pay close attention to your feeling and listen to them.
I'm hearing "Danger" ahead, if you stay
with someone who cannot be open and easy, loving and giving.
Good Luck
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