I know your feeling, Rala! I know the pain, the ignorance of the male counterpart and how it feels to be left to the way side for something virtual. The sex industry is the largest moneymaker! Men are CONSUMED by sex, imagery and many probably have no idea what all this causes us (as the woman).
I have had three long term relationships (one being a marriage). Two of the long term(ers) were addicted to pornography and the third was addicted to prescription medication. My sweet friend, I am not picking up men off the corner street, these are all men of importance in the world. I know many people can change and even pornography is an addiction, but stop and think.....if he never stopped this, would you be happy in the relationship?
I have noticed in many relationships, if you think he will change, he won't. He will only hide it better. I am not saying this for all situations or for all men but in honesty, it may never change. I want you to make a decision for you. What are you willing to deal with? No one is perfect but is this something that you can live with? If your answer is no, move on....it is not his addiction that should consume you. This is about you, about Rala! Remember, you are the only person who can make you happy. Wishing you the best of luck from the bottom of my heart! Just from my point of view, I walked away from all three. I knew what I couldn't deal with their chosen addictions for a long period of time. If you look up information about addiction, it is not about how much he loves you, it's all about him.
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I know your feeling, Rala! I know the pain, the ignorance of the male counterpart and how it feels to be left to the way side for something virtual. The sex industry is the largest moneymaker! Men are CONSUMED by sex, imagery and many probably have no idea what all this causes us (as the woman).
I have had three long term relationships (one being a marriage). Two of the long term(ers) were addicted to pornography and the third was addicted to prescription medication. My sweet friend, I am not picking up men off the corner street, these are all men of importance in the world. I know many people can change and even pornography is an addiction, but stop and think.....if he never stopped this, would you be happy in the relationship?
I have noticed in many relationships, if you think he will change, he won't. He will only hide it better. I am not saying this for all situations or for all men but in honesty, it may never change. I want you to make a decision for you. What are you willing to deal with? No one is perfect but is this something that you can live with? If your answer is no, move on....it is not his addiction that should consume you. This is about you, about Rala! Remember, you are the only person who can make you happy. Wishing you the best of luck from the bottom of my heart! Just from my point of view, I walked away from all three. I knew what I couldn't deal with their chosen addictions for a long period of time. If you look up information about addiction, it is not about how much he loves you, it's all about him.
June 12, 2010 - 10:56amThis Comment
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