Hey Karma,first of all-it feels great to be of be of help to you and you are most welcome=).
Karma,id first like to tell you that Life HAS to be full of ups and downs. Think bout it like ups wudnt really be ‘ups’ if there weren’t those downs before. It is only when u have terrible horrible times(downs) that you have the crazily happy moments(ups) later,when u sort out ur issues. You cant always be happy,if u were then it wudnt be a very special feeling because it wud be like any other normal thing in ur life tht happens everyday. Its in a very minute way related to delay of gratification. You feel SOO very special today,but this wud be a normal feeling if u felt like tht 4 the hole past year. So definitely there are gonna be more downs in ur relationship and be ready 4 them but more than that,look forward to the ups you’ll have after u sort those issues out=). So dunt regret the past and live in the moment and look forward to the future=). Give it sometime and talk to him about it,there is no point in just ‘pretending’ to forget it when its actually always at the back of ur head. If u say tht u both r different people and thts y ur loving it then tht shows tht he has made the move and changed,its now ur turn. And your probably scared that you may be hurt again cause it surely cant be tht u are ‘maybe’ seeing signs of him repeating it because signs r specific,u r either seeing signs or ur not..it cant be a maybe. And make ur time so special with him that you don’t have to regret it later,make it a relationship tht later u feel “damn its over,but im glad it happened,cuz the times I spent with him are way mor precious than this sadness now cuz anything with him is better than nothing”.
He cares bout u and thts y he got back to you,so toking to him wunt really be like talking to a brick wall..tell him how u feel and tell him that even though u want to get over the past just as much as he does,its going to take a while- and tell him in a way tht he feels tht he was so very terrible to u so even if u talking bout it now hurts him a little bit its okay. As I said before,dunt pretend to forget it..but tok 2 him about it and tell him again how much it really hurt u and definitely try making him feel a little more guilty,cuz tht way he’ll actually feel tht wat he did was unacceptable and hed never wanna hurt u again. Tell him ull definitely forget it once u both have spoken about it enough and sorted the issues but again remember tht its the past and theres not much to really ‘sort’ other than his guilt 4 it,and assurance of never doing it again.
More than It all just pray,meditate,have faith and relax. It aint all tht bad u noe,if u stay with him,love him to the fullest but don’t be dependant on him cuz thts when it hurts,ur a good person and gud things will happen to you-just as your name suggests=)
Hope I helped again,and hope it wasn’t a pain to read such a loooong message=)=P..take care and good luck=)
P.S- I know it feels like it was all his fault before ur break up cuz he apologised and all of tht but think over it again. Does it really matter if he watches porn?as long as he watches it in a limit and doesn’t masturbate next to you in bed? If so then let him know about it,he’ll feel more loved and know that you never had a problem with him,but with his habits..He’ll hopefully respect you for who YOU are..and not care about such silly things when it comes to you=)..Good Luck again Karma=)
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Hey Karma,first of all-it feels great to be of be of help to you and you are most welcome=).
Karma,id first like to tell you that Life HAS to be full of ups and downs. Think bout it like ups wudnt really be ‘ups’ if there weren’t those downs before. It is only when u have terrible horrible times(downs) that you have the crazily happy moments(ups) later,when u sort out ur issues. You cant always be happy,if u were then it wudnt be a very special feeling because it wud be like any other normal thing in ur life tht happens everyday. Its in a very minute way related to delay of gratification. You feel SOO very special today,but this wud be a normal feeling if u felt like tht 4 the hole past year. So definitely there are gonna be more downs in ur relationship and be ready 4 them but more than that,look forward to the ups you’ll have after u sort those issues out=). So dunt regret the past and live in the moment and look forward to the future=). Give it sometime and talk to him about it,there is no point in just ‘pretending’ to forget it when its actually always at the back of ur head. If u say tht u both r different people and thts y ur loving it then tht shows tht he has made the move and changed,its now ur turn. And your probably scared that you may be hurt again cause it surely cant be tht u are ‘maybe’ seeing signs of him repeating it because signs r specific,u r either seeing signs or ur not..it cant be a maybe. And make ur time so special with him that you don’t have to regret it later,make it a relationship tht later u feel “damn its over,but im glad it happened,cuz the times I spent with him are way mor precious than this sadness now cuz anything with him is better than nothing”.
He cares bout u and thts y he got back to you,so toking to him wunt really be like talking to a brick wall..tell him how u feel and tell him that even though u want to get over the past just as much as he does,its going to take a while- and tell him in a way tht he feels tht he was so very terrible to u so even if u talking bout it now hurts him a little bit its okay. As I said before,dunt pretend to forget it..but tok 2 him about it and tell him again how much it really hurt u and definitely try making him feel a little more guilty,cuz tht way he’ll actually feel tht wat he did was unacceptable and hed never wanna hurt u again. Tell him ull definitely forget it once u both have spoken about it enough and sorted the issues but again remember tht its the past and theres not much to really ‘sort’ other than his guilt 4 it,and assurance of never doing it again.
More than It all just pray,meditate,have faith and relax. It aint all tht bad u noe,if u stay with him,love him to the fullest but don’t be dependant on him cuz thts when it hurts,ur a good person and gud things will happen to you-just as your name suggests=)
Hope I helped again,and hope it wasn’t a pain to read such a loooong message=)=P..take care and good luck=)
P.S- I know it feels like it was all his fault before ur break up cuz he apologised and all of tht but think over it again. Does it really matter if he watches porn?as long as he watches it in a limit and doesn’t masturbate next to you in bed? If so then let him know about it,he’ll feel more loved and know that you never had a problem with him,but with his habits..He’ll hopefully respect you for who YOU are..and not care about such silly things when it comes to you=)..Good Luck again Karma=)
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