I don't think you need to "confront" anyone here. It doesn't really seem like he did anything wrong. But if you can work through your shyness enough to have an honest conversation with him, sure, there's nothing at all wrong with that. It does NOT make you "cheap" in ANY way.
Before you think about what you would want to ask him, be sure to consider what his responses might be and how you would respond to them. For instance, he could say "Sure, I always liked you but I wasn't sure you liked me back." Or he could say, "Yes, I used to really like you but now I am with someone else. Can we just be friends?" Or he could say, "You seem to shy that I thought you didn't like me." Or he could say 10 other things. Be sure, before you ask, how you would feel if he said any of those things.
Shyness is very difficult for many people. My best friend in high school was horribly shy. You may have to push yourself to make eye contact, talk to people personally, and enjoy conversations -- but it will be worth it. Let the world see the person who is inside you! Don't hide her!
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Anon,
I don't think you need to "confront" anyone here. It doesn't really seem like he did anything wrong. But if you can work through your shyness enough to have an honest conversation with him, sure, there's nothing at all wrong with that. It does NOT make you "cheap" in ANY way.
Before you think about what you would want to ask him, be sure to consider what his responses might be and how you would respond to them. For instance, he could say "Sure, I always liked you but I wasn't sure you liked me back." Or he could say, "Yes, I used to really like you but now I am with someone else. Can we just be friends?" Or he could say, "You seem to shy that I thought you didn't like me." Or he could say 10 other things. Be sure, before you ask, how you would feel if he said any of those things.
Shyness is very difficult for many people. My best friend in high school was horribly shy. You may have to push yourself to make eye contact, talk to people personally, and enjoy conversations -- but it will be worth it. Let the world see the person who is inside you! Don't hide her!
June 23, 2010 - 8:47amThis Comment
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