I am so sorry. After reading you message, I understand that you like your boyfriend, and repeatedly say that you two are compatible and that you "wish your relationship were bad, so it would make it easy to walk away".
Everyone has their own definition of what "bad" is. To me, this sounds not bad, but completely awful. I would feel terrible about myself being in these situations you describe...it was even difficult to read without feeling uncomfortable...I can not imagine living this on a regular basis.
It is up to every individual to make choices about what they will accept in a relationship. You have talked with him about how this feels to you, and you are uncomfortable. You are not sure you can trust him. Let's just pretend that his behavior is normal for a man who is sincerely interested in a mutually monogamous relationship (it is not, by the way). Do you want to be with someone who disregards your feelings, and continues to do the very things that you have told him makes you question yourself and the relationship?
You have a choice to make, but he is at least showing you his true self, so that you can make an informed decision. He is not hiding his deviant behavior (though, I would assume you are just seeing the tip of the iceberg), and you have all of the information you need about this person to know if you would like to continue dating him or not. Is this the lifestyle you want to have with an intimate partner?
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I am so sorry. After reading you message, I understand that you like your boyfriend, and repeatedly say that you two are compatible and that you "wish your relationship were bad, so it would make it easy to walk away".
Everyone has their own definition of what "bad" is. To me, this sounds not bad, but completely awful. I would feel terrible about myself being in these situations you describe...it was even difficult to read without feeling uncomfortable...I can not imagine living this on a regular basis.
It is up to every individual to make choices about what they will accept in a relationship. You have talked with him about how this feels to you, and you are uncomfortable. You are not sure you can trust him. Let's just pretend that his behavior is normal for a man who is sincerely interested in a mutually monogamous relationship (it is not, by the way). Do you want to be with someone who disregards your feelings, and continues to do the very things that you have told him makes you question yourself and the relationship?
You have a choice to make, but he is at least showing you his true self, so that you can make an informed decision. He is not hiding his deviant behavior (though, I would assume you are just seeing the tip of the iceberg), and you have all of the information you need about this person to know if you would like to continue dating him or not. Is this the lifestyle you want to have with an intimate partner?
June 27, 2010 - 5:10amThis Comment
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