The first thing is a lot of times in long term relationships, sex does sort of deplete in a sense. We get comfortable, maybe don’t think we need to do this anymore or that anymore about the special things like we used to…whatever the case, we change. You are 22 years old and have been together 5 years already? Congratulations! That’s a long term relationship for being so young.
The most most most important thing about any relationship is communication. Are you unhappy about your sex life? Yes. Have you spoken to him? Yes. Did you like the answer? No. Ok, now here is the tricky part. In every relationship, we must compromise. Talk to him again with an open mind and think to yourself (I don’t have to agree with what he wants but I do have to understand his wants and needs)! Does that make sense? If your sex drive is higher then his, that is not his problem, right? Compromise!
He can also put in more effort in the bedroom but might enjoy your initiation; he may be more of a submissive type instead of the aggressor! Talk to him with an open mind not thinking you will always get your way! As women, we always want OUR WAY. It may open your eyes to different possibilities.
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The first thing is a lot of times in long term relationships, sex does sort of deplete in a sense. We get comfortable, maybe don’t think we need to do this anymore or that anymore about the special things like we used to…whatever the case, we change. You are 22 years old and have been together 5 years already? Congratulations! That’s a long term relationship for being so young.
The most most most important thing about any relationship is communication. Are you unhappy about your sex life? Yes. Have you spoken to him? Yes. Did you like the answer? No. Ok, now here is the tricky part. In every relationship, we must compromise. Talk to him again with an open mind and think to yourself (I don’t have to agree with what he wants but I do have to understand his wants and needs)! Does that make sense? If your sex drive is higher then his, that is not his problem, right? Compromise!
He can also put in more effort in the bedroom but might enjoy your initiation; he may be more of a submissive type instead of the aggressor! Talk to him with an open mind not thinking you will always get your way! As women, we always want OUR WAY. It may open your eyes to different possibilities.
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June 30, 2010 - 11:20amThis Comment
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