I agree with you. I've changed my mindset from being the 'victim' as it were to viewing our time apart as time to invest in me. Last night I followed your advice and made a list of all the qualities I want from a man/relationship and I now know when going into our meeting next week what I want and don't want from our relationship. If his needs don't meet mine although it will hurt I'm going to call it a day, better now than dragging the torment out for another few months for him to turn round and say 'its still not working for me'.
However something I'm unsure about is if he asks if we could go on a longer break. I don't see the point of not seeing each other for a month or so, taking a week or so to take a step back and reflect on our relationship I understand, spending a month or more is a little confusing. If he proposes an extended break, so early in our relationship I'm not sure how to react.
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I agree with you. I've changed my mindset from being the 'victim' as it were to viewing our time apart as time to invest in me. Last night I followed your advice and made a list of all the qualities I want from a man/relationship and I now know when going into our meeting next week what I want and don't want from our relationship. If his needs don't meet mine although it will hurt I'm going to call it a day, better now than dragging the torment out for another few months for him to turn round and say 'its still not working for me'.
However something I'm unsure about is if he asks if we could go on a longer break. I don't see the point of not seeing each other for a month or so, taking a week or so to take a step back and reflect on our relationship I understand, spending a month or more is a little confusing. If he proposes an extended break, so early in our relationship I'm not sure how to react.
July 2, 2010 - 3:16amThis Comment
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