Listen well to the advice above. She's right on! Get to therapy and discover the potential for working serious issues like this one out with this man. If he refuses to go to therapy or you discover that the potential for productive talk is weak, don't proceed with the marriage!!! It's those little nudges you get that you DON'T heed because of fear or insecurity or some hope that it will somehow work itself out that can lead you to a very unhappy place. At the tender age of 20, I had a ring on my finger after 4 years of dating the same guy, a real sweetheart, but not into sex with me after the first 2 years of our relationship. IT NEVER CHANGED, EVEN WITH THERAPY. I'm now 30 plus years into a marriage with a sweet guy with whom I rarely have sexual contact (like 5 times a year, at my initiation). We're great pals, but that's the extent of it. I try to save every deserving young woman from this fate. You're only half alive and half married without passion or physical contact. Save yourself!
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Listen well to the advice above. She's right on! Get to therapy and discover the potential for working serious issues like this one out with this man. If he refuses to go to therapy or you discover that the potential for productive talk is weak, don't proceed with the marriage!!! It's those little nudges you get that you DON'T heed because of fear or insecurity or some hope that it will somehow work itself out that can lead you to a very unhappy place. At the tender age of 20, I had a ring on my finger after 4 years of dating the same guy, a real sweetheart, but not into sex with me after the first 2 years of our relationship. IT NEVER CHANGED, EVEN WITH THERAPY. I'm now 30 plus years into a marriage with a sweet guy with whom I rarely have sexual contact (like 5 times a year, at my initiation). We're great pals, but that's the extent of it. I try to save every deserving young woman from this fate. You're only half alive and half married without passion or physical contact. Save yourself!
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