Just don't act like he does things this way on purpose because he knows it hurts you. He doesn't. If he has Asperger's, it's probably the only thing he can do at the time. You have no idea how hard it is to cope with life when you have Asperger's. There's only so much "normal" interaction, "normal" socializing, "normal" go outside and have a little adventure an autistic person can take at one time. Those little routines and escapes are the only thing keeping from having meltdowns, shutdowns and psychotic breaks. You want to keep him in your life and out of an institution? Let him have his escape outlets and don't nag him. And don't expect him to suggest trips. I rather expect he doesn't like them, he does them because it's what you want and he loves you and wants do things for you and with you that you like. Especially if he leaves his comfort zone to do things with you, you shouldn't be asking him to give up the routines and escapes that allow him to wind back down to what, for him, is normal--his routines, his piano, his computer time,his indoor habits. Those things keep him sane. You do not want to trigger an autistic meltdown by trying to force him away from his routine into your perfect world.
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You can accept him for who he is.
Just don't act like he does things this way on purpose because he knows it hurts you. He doesn't. If he has Asperger's, it's probably the only thing he can do at the time. You have no idea how hard it is to cope with life when you have Asperger's. There's only so much "normal" interaction, "normal" socializing, "normal" go outside and have a little adventure an autistic person can take at one time. Those little routines and escapes are the only thing keeping from having meltdowns, shutdowns and psychotic breaks. You want to keep him in your life and out of an institution? Let him have his escape outlets and don't nag him. And don't expect him to suggest trips. I rather expect he doesn't like them, he does them because it's what you want and he loves you and wants do things for you and with you that you like. Especially if he leaves his comfort zone to do things with you, you shouldn't be asking him to give up the routines and escapes that allow him to wind back down to what, for him, is normal--his routines, his piano, his computer time,his indoor habits. Those things keep him sane. You do not want to trigger an autistic meltdown by trying to force him away from his routine into your perfect world.
March 11, 2017 - 5:29pmThis Comment
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