I have been in a sexless marraige for approx. 10 yrs. At first I was very hurt, angry, confused. I felt very undesirable, ugly & unwanted. I went through a lot of emotional ups and downs. Threatened to leave the marraige etc. I even greived that part of our relationship. Then menapause hit. And I questioned why I was so upset that my husband does not desire me. Becuase even if he did right now in my life, I myself have no desire for sex. So it works out for us. The only thing that bothers me about that is when he is around other women he acts so charming and entertaining that they all think he is a stud or something. That makes me mad. And yes jealous. He says he is not having an affair or has no interest in anybody. Maybe I'm nieve. But I really don't think he cares what so ever about sex. He is 49 yrs old. Good looking. The women think he is great. Very personable. We get along pretty good now. We seem to have a good friendship. We agree on things more then we disagree. I miss the holding, caressing etc. But I am 53 now. It's not like this just happened we have been going through this for the past 10 yrs. When I talk to my sisters about it. All they say is Oh we are so sorry. It's wierd. I guess in their eyes I'm wierd. My family loves him. He loves them. All I can say is if you are in a sexless marraige. Weigh your options. It is good in many other ways. Decide if it is worth sticking it out or not. I've decided to stick it out. If I was younger, that could have been the break up of us. I guess we just have to figure out what we can or cannot live with. It's not easy at first.
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I have been in a sexless marraige for approx. 10 yrs. At first I was very hurt, angry, confused. I felt very undesirable, ugly & unwanted. I went through a lot of emotional ups and downs. Threatened to leave the marraige etc. I even greived that part of our relationship. Then menapause hit. And I questioned why I was so upset that my husband does not desire me. Becuase even if he did right now in my life, I myself have no desire for sex. So it works out for us. The only thing that bothers me about that is when he is around other women he acts so charming and entertaining that they all think he is a stud or something. That makes me mad. And yes jealous. He says he is not having an affair or has no interest in anybody. Maybe I'm nieve. But I really don't think he cares what so ever about sex. He is 49 yrs old. Good looking. The women think he is great. Very personable. We get along pretty good now. We seem to have a good friendship. We agree on things more then we disagree. I miss the holding, caressing etc. But I am 53 now. It's not like this just happened we have been going through this for the past 10 yrs. When I talk to my sisters about it. All they say is Oh we are so sorry. It's wierd. I guess in their eyes I'm wierd. My family loves him. He loves them. All I can say is if you are in a sexless marraige. Weigh your options. It is good in many other ways. Decide if it is worth sticking it out or not. I've decided to stick it out. If I was younger, that could have been the break up of us. I guess we just have to figure out what we can or cannot live with. It's not easy at first.
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