Hi Susan,
I can't thank you enough for your response. It feels so good to be able to talk about this with someone who has had a similar experience.
I believe that the reason my mom didn't let me go to Victoria (where I'm going to school) is because she was afraid of my means of transportation. I couldn't find anyone to drive me there (pretty far away) so I told her taking the bus would be fine with me and for some time she agreed. A few days before my appointment, however, she approached me, telling me that she didn't think letting me travel 3+ hours on a bus all by myself was a good idea, and that she wasn't going to let me go. Like I said before, sometimes I don't even bother arguing with her, or even insisting, so what could I do but accept it. I told my dad about her unreasonable behavior, but my parents can't even talk on the phone for 5 minutes without arguing. He told me he wished he could help me, but that there wasn't much he could do. And my relationship with my dad isn't the best, either. Of course I love him and I know for a fact that he understands and supports my decisions much more, but we've never had the kind of relationship where we can openly discuss personal topics, such as these. And as he said, I know he won't be able to do much. Complaining to him would only cause more turmoil between my mom and I since she already becomes infuriated whenever I defend him.
The most difficult thing of all, Susan, is that I'm not even certain that going to university right now is what I want. I don't think I'm ready for it, and to be completely honest I would rather work for a year, save some money, maybe travel someplace, and start university next year. Victoria is so far away from all my friends...from my boyfriend and I'm terrified of throwing away such meaningful relationships. I feel like the real reason why I chose Victoria (as opposed to something closer) in the first place was to get away from my mom--but now I'm scared that the distance is going to be too much of a change, too big of a step.
I know I'm only 17 and there's years and years of life and experience ahead of me, but I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year and what we have is very special to me, and I don't want to just throw it all away.
So I'm in a pretty big mess right now and I have until this Monday to pay a non-refundable deposit towards my university studies. I guess it's pretty much my deadline to make a decision.
As for my mom, she has always more or less been like this. When we lived in Florida, as a whole family, though, it was much less severe. She was so much more reasonable. Everything worsened after my parents split up, and more often than not I feel like I have no one to stand up for me and support me.
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Hi Susan,
I can't thank you enough for your response. It feels so good to be able to talk about this with someone who has had a similar experience.
I believe that the reason my mom didn't let me go to Victoria (where I'm going to school) is because she was afraid of my means of transportation. I couldn't find anyone to drive me there (pretty far away) so I told her taking the bus would be fine with me and for some time she agreed. A few days before my appointment, however, she approached me, telling me that she didn't think letting me travel 3+ hours on a bus all by myself was a good idea, and that she wasn't going to let me go. Like I said before, sometimes I don't even bother arguing with her, or even insisting, so what could I do but accept it. I told my dad about her unreasonable behavior, but my parents can't even talk on the phone for 5 minutes without arguing. He told me he wished he could help me, but that there wasn't much he could do. And my relationship with my dad isn't the best, either. Of course I love him and I know for a fact that he understands and supports my decisions much more, but we've never had the kind of relationship where we can openly discuss personal topics, such as these. And as he said, I know he won't be able to do much. Complaining to him would only cause more turmoil between my mom and I since she already becomes infuriated whenever I defend him.
The most difficult thing of all, Susan, is that I'm not even certain that going to university right now is what I want. I don't think I'm ready for it, and to be completely honest I would rather work for a year, save some money, maybe travel someplace, and start university next year. Victoria is so far away from all my friends...from my boyfriend and I'm terrified of throwing away such meaningful relationships. I feel like the real reason why I chose Victoria (as opposed to something closer) in the first place was to get away from my mom--but now I'm scared that the distance is going to be too much of a change, too big of a step.
I know I'm only 17 and there's years and years of life and experience ahead of me, but I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year and what we have is very special to me, and I don't want to just throw it all away.
So I'm in a pretty big mess right now and I have until this Monday to pay a non-refundable deposit towards my university studies. I guess it's pretty much my deadline to make a decision.
As for my mom, she has always more or less been like this. When we lived in Florida, as a whole family, though, it was much less severe. She was so much more reasonable. Everything worsened after my parents split up, and more often than not I feel like I have no one to stand up for me and support me.
July 23, 2010 - 10:48pmThis Comment
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