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Hi,
Yes, yes and yes! It is completely normal for everyone's feelings to fluctuate (I like "weeble wobble better!). Think about your own feelings toward your friends, family...even your boyfriend. Those change, right? Sometimes you are happy to be with that person, other times they are annoying. All perfectly normal. It is actually a good sign that you too are able to communicate about difficult issues, and he feels like he can trust you with sensitive information about his feelings.

I would even bet that most people, even in the most committed, mutually loving long-term relationships have had that feeling...the feeling to want to be single again, if just for a day. What matters is how people act on their feelings; it is more troublesome when people hide their feelings from each other.

Please know, also, that there are no guarantees in relationships. Your fear could come true: he may change his mind in a few months and want to be single. But, you may change your mind, too!

I hope you don't live in fear of what might or might not happen in your future relationship. Enjoy your time with your boyfriend, with your friends and family, and by yourself, and you will have many rich and wonderful memories no matter who is still in your life five years from now.