You have the choice whether it will be "too late" or not. You can choose to learn some behavior change techniques while you are seeking treatment, as even when treatment does begin, it will take some time.
First of all, you said that you are 23 years old, and that "school records" are needed? Is this from high school, or from college? I'm not sure I understand this, as you are an adult, and should be able to seek treatment without "records".
- Are you currently employed, or still in school?
- Are you living with your boyfriend, or are you able to distance yourself from him?
- Do you have family or close friends who can offer support, and even a place to live if you need?
There are many therapists who do not have waiting lists. Are you needing a specific therapist for insurance reasons, employment reasons, or referral?
Can you send me a private message and tell me where you live (just city, state) and I can help you find some resources.
It is up to you how assertive you would like to be in seeking treatment. We can be right there with you, but you may need to begin calling different specialists, hospitals, clinics to find the right person. There are patient advocates, and your own primary care doctor should be able to help as well. Are they not taking you seriously? Have you told them the entire story?
I am sure we do not know the entire story, as ADHD does not "cause" abusive behavior and anger/rage as you described in your original post.
There are plenty of counselors who care. If you have found one that is not a good fit for you, it is not personal, and does not mean they do not care about YOU. They may have too much workload, may have other specialties, and you can absolutely tell this person, "I do not feel this is a good fit. Can you refer me to another psychologist?". They should not take this personally, as there does need to be a good patient-doctor relationship, and not everyone works well together. You need to feel cared about, and heard.
I also don't know you, and am not sure if you have exaggerated any symptoms or experiences, so please know I am taking your word that you are going through all of these situations and we can help guide you through. As much as you care to share with us, we can help you.
Please let us know how your counseling goes tomorrow. You can get through the barriers; everyone has them working in the health care system and it is just a fact of life. Just expect them to be there, ask questions and move to the next one. You can vent here, but be sure to continue using your assertiveness skills, advocate for yourself, and get good information from those helping you.
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You have the choice whether it will be "too late" or not. You can choose to learn some behavior change techniques while you are seeking treatment, as even when treatment does begin, it will take some time.
First of all, you said that you are 23 years old, and that "school records" are needed? Is this from high school, or from college? I'm not sure I understand this, as you are an adult, and should be able to seek treatment without "records".
- Are you currently employed, or still in school?
- Are you living with your boyfriend, or are you able to distance yourself from him?
- Do you have family or close friends who can offer support, and even a place to live if you need?
There are many therapists who do not have waiting lists. Are you needing a specific therapist for insurance reasons, employment reasons, or referral?
Can you send me a private message and tell me where you live (just city, state) and I can help you find some resources.
It is up to you how assertive you would like to be in seeking treatment. We can be right there with you, but you may need to begin calling different specialists, hospitals, clinics to find the right person. There are patient advocates, and your own primary care doctor should be able to help as well. Are they not taking you seriously? Have you told them the entire story?
I am sure we do not know the entire story, as ADHD does not "cause" abusive behavior and anger/rage as you described in your original post.
There are plenty of counselors who care. If you have found one that is not a good fit for you, it is not personal, and does not mean they do not care about YOU. They may have too much workload, may have other specialties, and you can absolutely tell this person, "I do not feel this is a good fit. Can you refer me to another psychologist?". They should not take this personally, as there does need to be a good patient-doctor relationship, and not everyone works well together. You need to feel cared about, and heard.
I also don't know you, and am not sure if you have exaggerated any symptoms or experiences, so please know I am taking your word that you are going through all of these situations and we can help guide you through. As much as you care to share with us, we can help you.
Please let us know how your counseling goes tomorrow. You can get through the barriers; everyone has them working in the health care system and it is just a fact of life. Just expect them to be there, ask questions and move to the next one. You can vent here, but be sure to continue using your assertiveness skills, advocate for yourself, and get good information from those helping you.
August 8, 2010 - 6:42pmThis Comment
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