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Hi Laura,
I can understand that it hurts to feel like someone was lying to you for so long! However, from my perspective I think its unrealistic for anyone to stop masturbating simply because they're married. Plus a lie like that it not like him saying he cheated on you or something to that degree. If your sex life his not suffered from it then I don't think his crime is that great.
I don't mean to sound unsympathetic to your situation, I just want to present another perspective.
I never feel insecure that my husband watches porn or masturbates. So I have a hard time relating to women who do feel insecure about it.
I actually encourage it sometimes because I think he is more relaxed afterwards. I encourage anything that helps improve his quality of life. I don't see it as anything personal.
But at the same time, my husband and I didn't promise each other that we wouldn't masturbate. So, I can understand you're feeling betrayed.
I just encourage you to see that since you guys were very young, perhaps you didn't realize that it was a very unrealistic promise.