My lover and I have been in a LAT relationship for over a decade. He's never been married, I'm divorced with two (now adult) children. He took to the LAT lifestyle with no apparent issue. I didn't particularly want to marry or live with him so I didn't push for it, but it still took me a few years to accept that what we have is more than simply dating, mostly because I thought that progression was how it was supposed to go. I finally realized I was happy, he was happy, so what did it matter if we didn't take our relationship to some arbitrary "next level." If we needed to for legal reasons, I would be honored to call him husband. But I don't feel any need to marry, and have no desire to live with him, married or not.
We talk on the phone, text, or email a few times a week, although not daily, and have regular date nights that we both consider to be sacrosanct and only broken in extreme circumstances. We vacation together and regularly share a number of activities that we enjoy. I adore him, and he treats me like a queen. We have fun together, and I like the person I am when I'm with him. I feel we share the best parts of ourselves, but we both need a lot of space and alone time, and the LAT relationship allows us to have that without either feeling rejected. It works.
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My lover and I have been in a LAT relationship for over a decade. He's never been married, I'm divorced with two (now adult) children. He took to the LAT lifestyle with no apparent issue. I didn't particularly want to marry or live with him so I didn't push for it, but it still took me a few years to accept that what we have is more than simply dating, mostly because I thought that progression was how it was supposed to go. I finally realized I was happy, he was happy, so what did it matter if we didn't take our relationship to some arbitrary "next level." If we needed to for legal reasons, I would be honored to call him husband. But I don't feel any need to marry, and have no desire to live with him, married or not.
We talk on the phone, text, or email a few times a week, although not daily, and have regular date nights that we both consider to be sacrosanct and only broken in extreme circumstances. We vacation together and regularly share a number of activities that we enjoy. I adore him, and he treats me like a queen. We have fun together, and I like the person I am when I'm with him. I feel we share the best parts of ourselves, but we both need a lot of space and alone time, and the LAT relationship allows us to have that without either feeling rejected. It works.
May 28, 2012 - 9:19pmThis Comment
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