Anon - Thank you for your questions and for sharing your story with EmpowHER. Having a hysterectomy at 38 has, of course, put you into menopause earlier than would have occurred naturally. You may find it helpful to focus on finding information and support for menopause relief rather than post-hysterectomy support. There far more books, websites, support groups, etc. for menopause support and they tend to focus more on a woman's needs as a whole rather than recovery from a clinical procedure.
In terms of relief from the hot flashes and heat you should definitely discuss this with your doctor as there may be some clinical reasons for your symptoms. Additionally, you will find a lot of practical information in our Hot Flashes section of the site, including solutions that have worked for other women. https://www.empowher.com/condition/hot-flashes/definition
Please also see: https://www.empowher.com/community/share/treatments-hot-flashes
Power Surge - Website for women in menopause http://www.power-surge.com/
In terms of feeling like "the essence of being a woman" was taken away you may want to consider getting some professional counseling to help you accept your situation. Your belief is your own, and as long as you feel this way, and it bothers you, then you will struggle against circumstances that you can't change. This leads to a vicious cycle of beating up one's self, and that certainly isn't healthy for anyone.
Recovery from any type of major surgery takes longer than we tend to expect. You are still in the process of recovery and learning to live with your new situation. It's going to take some time and a lot of information to figure out what's best for you, but you will get there. Please try to be more gentle with yourself, and accept the good things that are still present in your life. You may want to consider journaling to help express your feelings and to also look at the things you're grateful for. Better days are ahead, and I hope this information helps you to get there.
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Anon - Thank you for your questions and for sharing your story with EmpowHER. Having a hysterectomy at 38 has, of course, put you into menopause earlier than would have occurred naturally. You may find it helpful to focus on finding information and support for menopause relief rather than post-hysterectomy support. There far more books, websites, support groups, etc. for menopause support and they tend to focus more on a woman's needs as a whole rather than recovery from a clinical procedure.
In terms of relief from the hot flashes and heat you should definitely discuss this with your doctor as there may be some clinical reasons for your symptoms. Additionally, you will find a lot of practical information in our Hot Flashes section of the site, including solutions that have worked for other women. https://www.empowher.com/condition/hot-flashes/definition
Please also see: https://www.empowher.com/community/share/treatments-hot-flashes
https://www.empowher.com/community/share/information-hot-flashes
Power Surge - Website for women in menopause http://www.power-surge.com/
In terms of feeling like "the essence of being a woman" was taken away you may want to consider getting some professional counseling to help you accept your situation. Your belief is your own, and as long as you feel this way, and it bothers you, then you will struggle against circumstances that you can't change. This leads to a vicious cycle of beating up one's self, and that certainly isn't healthy for anyone.
Recovery from any type of major surgery takes longer than we tend to expect. You are still in the process of recovery and learning to live with your new situation. It's going to take some time and a lot of information to figure out what's best for you, but you will get there. Please try to be more gentle with yourself, and accept the good things that are still present in your life. You may want to consider journaling to help express your feelings and to also look at the things you're grateful for. Better days are ahead, and I hope this information helps you to get there.
Take care,
November 5, 2010 - 5:27pmPat
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