I love all of your questions - it seems to me like you should be writing for empowHER yourself! I agree, phone-sex is potentially a misnomer or a romanticization of mutual masturbation. However, I think you put your finger right on the slight difference when you mentioned the "reaching out" component of the call. Being able to participate in rewarding phone sex requires that a couple knows each other, can listen to each other carefully and can communicate wants/needs to each other effectively. It requires more than just self-centered gratification, which masturbation (whether in the presence of others or not) implies. I'm sure you are right that phone sex would be a different phenomena when held between 2 strangers and a committed couple, just like a one night stand is different than sex with a partner.
In response to your question about gadgets, as well as in terms of long-distance romance in general, I definitely believe that nothing will replace the magic of actual, intimate touch. But if it could, perhaps touch wouldn't be so magical!
Keep your comments coming, and thank you again!
Hannah
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Thank you, reader/writer!
I love all of your questions - it seems to me like you should be writing for empowHER yourself! I agree, phone-sex is potentially a misnomer or a romanticization of mutual masturbation. However, I think you put your finger right on the slight difference when you mentioned the "reaching out" component of the call. Being able to participate in rewarding phone sex requires that a couple knows each other, can listen to each other carefully and can communicate wants/needs to each other effectively. It requires more than just self-centered gratification, which masturbation (whether in the presence of others or not) implies. I'm sure you are right that phone sex would be a different phenomena when held between 2 strangers and a committed couple, just like a one night stand is different than sex with a partner.
In response to your question about gadgets, as well as in terms of long-distance romance in general, I definitely believe that nothing will replace the magic of actual, intimate touch. But if it could, perhaps touch wouldn't be so magical!
Keep your comments coming, and thank you again!
November 11, 2010 - 1:40pmHannah
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