Well not that I am all knowing but its seems that lots of women go through this problem with the sex decrease, romance decreasing, men getting defensive when we as woman try to discuss how we feel about it. It's almost like to them that women are ragging and complaining or putting them down. Which I know as a woman that is not what we are trying to do. We just want to talk out our feelings and figure out where the problem lies and resolve it. Men just are not the same as us. Its seems feelings, emotions, are basically "Drama" to them that they don't need. I think your on the right track on being patient and if you really love him you will put your needs and wants aside and love him unconditionally. If you be sweet, don't bring up the sex issue, ask him how his day was? Get more involved with his feelings but be settle about it. You'll discover allot. I have had depression issue's and have take med's. The med's did not fix me, I fixed me through therapy, excersize, surrounding myself around posative influences and starting doing things like hobbies that I like for me. My man telling me he likes the house its clean or my dinner I cooked was great or telling me I look hot, constant posative helped a bunch. Your boyfriend is not happy with himself, something is deep seeded, perhaps from childhood. He puts himself down and since he is miserable he will sometimes take you down with him. Let him know next time he makes a hurtful commment like that to you that you love him even more since you have to love him because he doesn't love himself right now. That for every door that closes in our life another one opens and there is always a tomorrow. Sometimes depression causes suicidle thoughts and being posative and expressing there is hope really does help. You plant a tiny seed in his head everytime and it will grow. Last I suggest you buy yourself a christmas gift, a "vibrator." They have silent ones and there small. He does not need to know you have it because some men get upset with the woman buying one but hey you need to take care of that and boy do they work great. Don't use it everyday as it will desencatize you. Maybe when he is not around. I wish you the best of luck and if you stay posative that will rub off on him. Its hard to deal with a love one suffering from depression and you can only be supportive, give love and posative feed back but it will be him that will need to make the change to get better. He has to want it though. That is all, I hope I said something that will help you along this chapter of your life.
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Well not that I am all knowing but its seems that lots of women go through this problem with the sex decrease, romance decreasing, men getting defensive when we as woman try to discuss how we feel about it. It's almost like to them that women are ragging and complaining or putting them down. Which I know as a woman that is not what we are trying to do. We just want to talk out our feelings and figure out where the problem lies and resolve it. Men just are not the same as us. Its seems feelings, emotions, are basically "Drama" to them that they don't need. I think your on the right track on being patient and if you really love him you will put your needs and wants aside and love him unconditionally. If you be sweet, don't bring up the sex issue, ask him how his day was? Get more involved with his feelings but be settle about it. You'll discover allot. I have had depression issue's and have take med's. The med's did not fix me, I fixed me through therapy, excersize, surrounding myself around posative influences and starting doing things like hobbies that I like for me. My man telling me he likes the house its clean or my dinner I cooked was great or telling me I look hot, constant posative helped a bunch. Your boyfriend is not happy with himself, something is deep seeded, perhaps from childhood. He puts himself down and since he is miserable he will sometimes take you down with him. Let him know next time he makes a hurtful commment like that to you that you love him even more since you have to love him because he doesn't love himself right now. That for every door that closes in our life another one opens and there is always a tomorrow. Sometimes depression causes suicidle thoughts and being posative and expressing there is hope really does help. You plant a tiny seed in his head everytime and it will grow. Last I suggest you buy yourself a christmas gift, a "vibrator." They have silent ones and there small. He does not need to know you have it because some men get upset with the woman buying one but hey you need to take care of that and boy do they work great. Don't use it everyday as it will desencatize you. Maybe when he is not around. I wish you the best of luck and if you stay posative that will rub off on him. Its hard to deal with a love one suffering from depression and you can only be supportive, give love and posative feed back but it will be him that will need to make the change to get better. He has to want it though. That is all, I hope I said something that will help you along this chapter of your life.
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