This has been an issue for me in my last two relationships. In the beginning, there were NO articles about this ANYWHERE, and even still, I have no definitive answer. One similarity was that they both had kids who they were not communicating with in any way, and I would tell them that I had a problem with that. I think it was just the kick in the gut of our relationship that was fatal to our sex life. I kept trying to fix that one thing and some other things. I know you should never try to "fix" anybody, but some people take a little longer to get to know. In one relationship, he appreciated my helping him work through his anger issues, but we still never had sex, and his not working through the anger issues and other things with both of us killed that one. I looked at it as "growing together", and yeah, it was fixing. It's dumb. I didn't know about their kids and the anger issues 'til after I already moved in with them. By then, leaving seemed more complicated than staying, and I was already invested in the relationship. I just wish I knew them better sooner, like before I moved in, at least.
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This has been an issue for me in my last two relationships. In the beginning, there were NO articles about this ANYWHERE, and even still, I have no definitive answer. One similarity was that they both had kids who they were not communicating with in any way, and I would tell them that I had a problem with that. I think it was just the kick in the gut of our relationship that was fatal to our sex life. I kept trying to fix that one thing and some other things. I know you should never try to "fix" anybody, but some people take a little longer to get to know. In one relationship, he appreciated my helping him work through his anger issues, but we still never had sex, and his not working through the anger issues and other things with both of us killed that one. I looked at it as "growing together", and yeah, it was fixing. It's dumb. I didn't know about their kids and the anger issues 'til after I already moved in with them. By then, leaving seemed more complicated than staying, and I was already invested in the relationship. I just wish I knew them better sooner, like before I moved in, at least.
May 29, 2011 - 9:22pmThis Comment
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