Hi,
I am so sorry you are going through this. I am uncertain of the relevancy with your husband's condition or age, as ANY person who does not respond to a concern, and ANY person who "shuts themselves out" of a relationship is not something you can change, and is an effort on their part to retain control.
You said he did not admit to the affair, and you found out about this after a year. I am not sure if he is actively denying the affair, and if you have solid "proof" the affair did happen, you two are still at square one...you can not even begin the healing/saving process until you two can discuss this like adults. If he is choosing not to even accept responsibility, there is nothing to talk about until he does.
What you CAN do is seek counseling, either individually or (hopefully) as a couple. Your husband has to choose better behaviors that can improve or save the marriage (communication, responsibility), and he can start by agreeing to counseling.
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Hi,
I am so sorry you are going through this. I am uncertain of the relevancy with your husband's condition or age, as ANY person who does not respond to a concern, and ANY person who "shuts themselves out" of a relationship is not something you can change, and is an effort on their part to retain control.
You said he did not admit to the affair, and you found out about this after a year. I am not sure if he is actively denying the affair, and if you have solid "proof" the affair did happen, you two are still at square one...you can not even begin the healing/saving process until you two can discuss this like adults. If he is choosing not to even accept responsibility, there is nothing to talk about until he does.
What you CAN do is seek counseling, either individually or (hopefully) as a couple. Your husband has to choose better behaviors that can improve or save the marriage (communication, responsibility), and he can start by agreeing to counseling.
Please let us know how you are doing!
December 23, 2010 - 9:24amThis Comment
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