one of my a/s husbands obcessions is women[confirmed by psychologist]we have been married 45 yrs.although he appears to be very shy,he is not with women.
he told me i was imagining it for years,it took all my confidence and i ended up with a breakdown.however after councilling my self esteem grew/my husband got diagnosed officially.then we went to relate,a charity that offers councilling to couples where one has a/s.so then my husband could not deny it any more.so now when it starts,all ways with neighbor or woman at church,even my daughters friends.so before he becomes too obcessed i nip it in the bud.i always know cos he talks about these women or girls.[to me]he will openly flirt and be innapropriate and we have lost good friends cos of this.as you said he has never discussed.
so now i am confident i first of all say AS YOU SEEM TO REALY LIKE TAT PERSON,EITHER YOU STOP THIS BAD BEHAVIOUR NOW or LEAVE THIS MARRIAGE AND THIS HOUSE.he usualy saysO I WOULD NOT LIVE WITH HER,SHE WOULD NOT LOOK AFTER ME,i then take the person to one side and inform them about his a/s.one woman said WELL IF YOU SHOWED HIM MORE LOVE,HE WOULD NOT LOOK ELSEWHERE/.i politely told her i had shown him love and affection for 40 yrs,its him who can flirt but not love.he did tell me that as long as he is not intimate then he is not unfaithfull.so yes he can still flirt for england,he still loves chatting to women,but it stops there.he is now terrified of losing his family.so you are not alone
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one of my a/s husbands obcessions is women[confirmed by psychologist]we have been married 45 yrs.although he appears to be very shy,he is not with women.
December 23, 2010 - 11:57amhe told me i was imagining it for years,it took all my confidence and i ended up with a breakdown.however after councilling my self esteem grew/my husband got diagnosed officially.then we went to relate,a charity that offers councilling to couples where one has a/s.so then my husband could not deny it any more.so now when it starts,all ways with neighbor or woman at church,even my daughters friends.so before he becomes too obcessed i nip it in the bud.i always know cos he talks about these women or girls.[to me]he will openly flirt and be innapropriate and we have lost good friends cos of this.as you said he has never discussed.
so now i am confident i first of all say AS YOU SEEM TO REALY LIKE TAT PERSON,EITHER YOU STOP THIS BAD BEHAVIOUR NOW or LEAVE THIS MARRIAGE AND THIS HOUSE.he usualy saysO I WOULD NOT LIVE WITH HER,SHE WOULD NOT LOOK AFTER ME,i then take the person to one side and inform them about his a/s.one woman said WELL IF YOU SHOWED HIM MORE LOVE,HE WOULD NOT LOOK ELSEWHERE/.i politely told her i had shown him love and affection for 40 yrs,its him who can flirt but not love.he did tell me that as long as he is not intimate then he is not unfaithfull.so yes he can still flirt for england,he still loves chatting to women,but it stops there.he is now terrified of losing his family.so you are not alone
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