Honestly, it sounds like you are digging yourself into a bigger hole! You don't feel like doing anything/making any effort without your boyfriend... and he is not particularly liking the fact that you DON'T make the effort and DON'T feel like doing anything. This is a bad cycle that needs to stop!
Do you think you may be feeling depressed? Are you able to talk with a counselor?
The things you say you like to do...you aren't currently doing them because you don't feel like it. That is not even close to being passionate about other people, places and things, right?!
It is important to re-evaluate where you are at in your life. If you are depressed or intensely sad, please seek therapy. If you no longer love doing things that once brought you joy, try other things. Meet other people doing those things that you love. Take one step and join a group or class that is social AND utilized one of your interests. Are there any poetry reading groups, or writing clubs? Have you volunteered with a local animal shelter, where you can also meet other volunteers? Take one small step in any direction! If you are too sad to even pick up the phone and register for a class or volunteer, please talk with your boyfriend about your needing counseling.
Being used to spending all of your time with one person is very boring, uninteresting and is not a good recipe for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. If you are not depressed, and just confused, start journaling your feelings. Becoming stagnant in life will not lead to any interesting people, careers, hobbies, interests, boyfriends. You have to be an equal and active participant in all of your relationships in order for them to work!
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Honestly, it sounds like you are digging yourself into a bigger hole! You don't feel like doing anything/making any effort without your boyfriend... and he is not particularly liking the fact that you DON'T make the effort and DON'T feel like doing anything. This is a bad cycle that needs to stop!
Do you think you may be feeling depressed? Are you able to talk with a counselor?
The things you say you like to do...you aren't currently doing them because you don't feel like it. That is not even close to being passionate about other people, places and things, right?!
It is important to re-evaluate where you are at in your life. If you are depressed or intensely sad, please seek therapy. If you no longer love doing things that once brought you joy, try other things. Meet other people doing those things that you love. Take one step and join a group or class that is social AND utilized one of your interests. Are there any poetry reading groups, or writing clubs? Have you volunteered with a local animal shelter, where you can also meet other volunteers? Take one small step in any direction! If you are too sad to even pick up the phone and register for a class or volunteer, please talk with your boyfriend about your needing counseling.
Being used to spending all of your time with one person is very boring, uninteresting and is not a good recipe for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. If you are not depressed, and just confused, start journaling your feelings. Becoming stagnant in life will not lead to any interesting people, careers, hobbies, interests, boyfriends. You have to be an equal and active participant in all of your relationships in order for them to work!
December 23, 2010 - 9:25pmThis Comment
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