Your girlfriend is a professional with a career and an additional full time job as a doctorate student-- sex is likely to be the last thing on her mind. Sometimes mental exhaustion and stress can be even more of a deal breaker than physical exhaustion and I'm sure she has both. I can't tell you what's on her mind but, as a woman, her excuses sound all too familiar and they are probably true. I know you've brought up the sex topic with her before but have you mentioned that you feel as though she isn't attracted to you anymore? Perhaps all you need is clarification that it isn't you, it's really her. Try asking her if she needs some space to herself-- people deal with stress in different ways... whereas you may enjoy company under stress, she may want to spend a nice, quiet night alone. Know what I mean?
I guess the true question is if you're willing to continue a relationship with a career-driven woman who seems to be putting you on the back burner for the time being? Sometimes in relationships we need to sacrifice a little to gain a lot-- and this seems to be your case. It also seems like you do an awful lot to help her lessen her load and I'm sure that she appreciates you for that.
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Dear Frustrated in SB,
Your girlfriend is a professional with a career and an additional full time job as a doctorate student-- sex is likely to be the last thing on her mind. Sometimes mental exhaustion and stress can be even more of a deal breaker than physical exhaustion and I'm sure she has both. I can't tell you what's on her mind but, as a woman, her excuses sound all too familiar and they are probably true. I know you've brought up the sex topic with her before but have you mentioned that you feel as though she isn't attracted to you anymore? Perhaps all you need is clarification that it isn't you, it's really her. Try asking her if she needs some space to herself-- people deal with stress in different ways... whereas you may enjoy company under stress, she may want to spend a nice, quiet night alone. Know what I mean?
I guess the true question is if you're willing to continue a relationship with a career-driven woman who seems to be putting you on the back burner for the time being? Sometimes in relationships we need to sacrifice a little to gain a lot-- and this seems to be your case. It also seems like you do an awful lot to help her lessen her load and I'm sure that she appreciates you for that.
Good Luck-- let us know how it goes.
February 11, 2011 - 6:38amThis Comment
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