I was married for 14 years when we separated, 17 years when our divorce was finalized. When you've invested that much time and energy, and, particularly in my case where my husband and I were actually pretty good friends, you will always have some feelings about that date. For me, I considered it "Freedom Day", but it's 5 years after we separated and all that time I've had to work at creating the emotional freedom. The physical freedom was easy. The emotional freedom -- getting his voice, opinions, negativity and cynicism out of my head -- can take much longer. That's how insidious emotional abuse can be even years after the physical separation happens.
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I was married for 14 years when we separated, 17 years when our divorce was finalized. When you've invested that much time and energy, and, particularly in my case where my husband and I were actually pretty good friends, you will always have some feelings about that date. For me, I considered it "Freedom Day", but it's 5 years after we separated and all that time I've had to work at creating the emotional freedom. The physical freedom was easy. The emotional freedom -- getting his voice, opinions, negativity and cynicism out of my head -- can take much longer. That's how insidious emotional abuse can be even years after the physical separation happens.
Glad it was helpful for you. Please keep in touch. We're all here to supports each other.
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