Hi Leanne,
Thank you for your question and welcome to EmpowHer! It is common as young adults to start a relationship with someone and then move on later. As a first relationship, you don’t realize that this is possibly an adult learning lesson for you. It is ok if he stays or if he decides to move on…because you have learned something out of the relationship (adulthood).
Maturity comes at different times for each one of us. If his main complaint is your maturity level, this will come but it may take some time. Have you ever lived on your own? Did you move from your parent’s house into a house with him? Are you working?
You mentioned that you are still a kid….but you’re dreaming about adult things such as marriage, kids of your own, etc. Perhaps it may be a good time to try to move into adulthood and let the child go. Either way, you are 23 years old and have PLENTY of time to be an adult. Are you in school?
I hope this helps a little. There is nothing we can do to stop him if he wants to leave but if maturity level is a definite issue, I think you can work on that.
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Hi Leanne,
Thank you for your question and welcome to EmpowHer! It is common as young adults to start a relationship with someone and then move on later. As a first relationship, you don’t realize that this is possibly an adult learning lesson for you. It is ok if he stays or if he decides to move on…because you have learned something out of the relationship (adulthood).
Maturity comes at different times for each one of us. If his main complaint is your maturity level, this will come but it may take some time. Have you ever lived on your own? Did you move from your parent’s house into a house with him? Are you working?
You mentioned that you are still a kid….but you’re dreaming about adult things such as marriage, kids of your own, etc. Perhaps it may be a good time to try to move into adulthood and let the child go. Either way, you are 23 years old and have PLENTY of time to be an adult. Are you in school?
I hope this helps a little. There is nothing we can do to stop him if he wants to leave but if maturity level is a definite issue, I think you can work on that.
Let me know and good luck,
March 23, 2011 - 11:31amMissie
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