It sounds like your boyfriend may have some performance anxiety since the one instance of erectile dysfunction. He could be afraid that it may happen again, or since you mentioned that it happened while he was putting a condom on, it could very well be that the condom could be the cause and he is playing it safe in order to not get you pregnant. Can you talk to your boyfriend? It's perfectly fine to express how you feel while bearing in mind that he has feelings too and that if you do approach him about this topic, his anxiety can increase if you just say "Why won't you have sex with me? I am not feeling the emotional connection." Instead, try expressing how much you love/care about him that you enjoy the foreplay and wanted to know if he would have sex with you again-- in your own words. You can try easing from foreplay into a little penetration and moving to longer periods of sex from there. Instead of just jumping from foreplay to sex.
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Hi Anonymous,
It sounds like your boyfriend may have some performance anxiety since the one instance of erectile dysfunction. He could be afraid that it may happen again, or since you mentioned that it happened while he was putting a condom on, it could very well be that the condom could be the cause and he is playing it safe in order to not get you pregnant. Can you talk to your boyfriend? It's perfectly fine to express how you feel while bearing in mind that he has feelings too and that if you do approach him about this topic, his anxiety can increase if you just say "Why won't you have sex with me? I am not feeling the emotional connection." Instead, try expressing how much you love/care about him that you enjoy the foreplay and wanted to know if he would have sex with you again-- in your own words. You can try easing from foreplay into a little penetration and moving to longer periods of sex from there. Instead of just jumping from foreplay to sex.
Hope this helps,
Rosa
March 28, 2011 - 6:00amThis Comment
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