Props to you for opening up like that about your abusive past, you must really trust him a lot. That is a big step. Honestly in my opinion I would suggest you talk to him. Ask him if he is holding back, if so, ask him if it is because of your past. If it is so, well then I think it would be wise to talk to him about it and explain to him that it is YOUR past and does not concern him at all. You said he inquired about your past relationships. Anyone inquiring about their loved ones past (especially love life) knows that whatever is said after that point onward should be accepted. He cannot be mad at you for that because HE asked. And you being truthful, told him. Simple as that really.
I believe communication is one of the vital keys in any relationship. We cannot read minds, therefore we need to communicate what we feel or think. Ask him to do so. And encourage him to talk to you when something is on his mind or bothering him whether it concerns your relationship or not.
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Hi vashworth,
Props to you for opening up like that about your abusive past, you must really trust him a lot. That is a big step. Honestly in my opinion I would suggest you talk to him. Ask him if he is holding back, if so, ask him if it is because of your past. If it is so, well then I think it would be wise to talk to him about it and explain to him that it is YOUR past and does not concern him at all. You said he inquired about your past relationships. Anyone inquiring about their loved ones past (especially love life) knows that whatever is said after that point onward should be accepted. He cannot be mad at you for that because HE asked. And you being truthful, told him. Simple as that really.
I believe communication is one of the vital keys in any relationship. We cannot read minds, therefore we need to communicate what we feel or think. Ask him to do so. And encourage him to talk to you when something is on his mind or bothering him whether it concerns your relationship or not.
I hope everything works out well for you guys!
April 19, 2011 - 9:56amThis Comment
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