My husband and I have been married for 42 years. I have health issues which have prevented me from being independent of his support. Our daughter and her two children live with us and she is also an emotional abuser. My husband controls almost all our money, I get access to less than 1% of our funds. He makes decisions and I'm supposed to rubber stamp them. If I raise objections or question him, I'm wrong. I once told him it looks like I won't have any say in how our savings are spent unless he dies or we get a divorce. He looked at me and calmly agreed.
From the first part of our marriage, he moved us further and further away from my family. When my mother came to help after the birth of our first child, he let her know we didn't need her help anymore after only a couple of days. I developed a severe kidney infection and she didn't feel comfortable coming back to help.
I went to my parents when the children were small, but they thought I was exaggerating the issue. It wasn't until my dad came to live with us after my mom's death, 30 years later, that he saw the truth.
I've had friends offer me a place to go to, including our son. Some days are okay, as long as I don't say anything that sets one of them off. She yells, he gets cold. I feel pushed into a dark hole.
I'm trying again to get us into counseling. I have a new grandbaby coming in February and I want to be here for her. I pray to God for the strength to get through this and for help for all of us.
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My husband and I have been married for 42 years. I have health issues which have prevented me from being independent of his support. Our daughter and her two children live with us and she is also an emotional abuser. My husband controls almost all our money, I get access to less than 1% of our funds. He makes decisions and I'm supposed to rubber stamp them. If I raise objections or question him, I'm wrong. I once told him it looks like I won't have any say in how our savings are spent unless he dies or we get a divorce. He looked at me and calmly agreed.
From the first part of our marriage, he moved us further and further away from my family. When my mother came to help after the birth of our first child, he let her know we didn't need her help anymore after only a couple of days. I developed a severe kidney infection and she didn't feel comfortable coming back to help.
I went to my parents when the children were small, but they thought I was exaggerating the issue. It wasn't until my dad came to live with us after my mom's death, 30 years later, that he saw the truth.
I've had friends offer me a place to go to, including our son. Some days are okay, as long as I don't say anything that sets one of them off. She yells, he gets cold. I feel pushed into a dark hole.
I'm trying again to get us into counseling. I have a new grandbaby coming in February and I want to be here for her. I pray to God for the strength to get through this and for help for all of us.
November 13, 2014 - 10:44pmThis Comment
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