I can see myself fitting some of the characteristics of an emotional abuser, but I do not punish. That is, deliberately wanting to make my spouse pay for the pain caused. Instead my actions cause unintended consequences or I go silent for lack of what to say. Sometimes I'm accused of being condescending when I speaking passionately about a subject. (Being condescending is nowhere in my thought process) My question, and this is NOT to minimize my behavior, is it possible that I am also a victim of emotional abuse? For example, my spouse will tell me what I'm thinking or what my intention is and then respond as if the accusation was true. There is no opportunity to discuss my thoughts or motives before I'm punished.
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I can see myself fitting some of the characteristics of an emotional abuser, but I do not punish. That is, deliberately wanting to make my spouse pay for the pain caused. Instead my actions cause unintended consequences or I go silent for lack of what to say. Sometimes I'm accused of being condescending when I speaking passionately about a subject. (Being condescending is nowhere in my thought process) My question, and this is NOT to minimize my behavior, is it possible that I am also a victim of emotional abuse? For example, my spouse will tell me what I'm thinking or what my intention is and then respond as if the accusation was true. There is no opportunity to discuss my thoughts or motives before I'm punished.
February 11, 2016 - 6:32pmThis Comment
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