Hey,
This post is 5 years old but I would love to know what happened between you two. Reading your post was shocking as it mirrors exactly what I went through.
I met my boyfriend 6 months back and things went really well for the first 3 months- He said he wanted to marry me soon and even came to see me in New York for 10 days (From India)
After the trip, he changed completely. There was a major difference between us and he told me he experiences anxiety and cannot be in a healthy relationship. He still wanted my help and I helped him without expecting anything in return. (Because he was a good person)
Slowly his true nature came out. He became so increasingly self centred, only met me once in a month when it was convenient for him. Only spoke on the phone when it was convenient for him and never took my calls otherwise. He used to take ages to reply to my messages and I started suspecting him of cheating on me.
However, the truth is - he is a self entered guy with no empathy for anyone and he can't even relate to any of my emotions. On several occasions I have told him his behaviour upsets me and makes me feel unwanted. His usual response - what? I don't understand how I can possibly upset you?! It's you who doesn't give me time.
So it became clear that no matter how miserable I was, it wasn't going to make a difference to his life. I broke up with him day before yesterday and he didn't seem to be bothered. It's true he is not emotionally mature enough to consider anyone else's needs other than his own.
My advice is to leave such people to fix themselves and mature! There are plenty of lovely people out there :)
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Hey,
This post is 5 years old but I would love to know what happened between you two. Reading your post was shocking as it mirrors exactly what I went through.
I met my boyfriend 6 months back and things went really well for the first 3 months- He said he wanted to marry me soon and even came to see me in New York for 10 days (From India)
After the trip, he changed completely. There was a major difference between us and he told me he experiences anxiety and cannot be in a healthy relationship. He still wanted my help and I helped him without expecting anything in return. (Because he was a good person)
Slowly his true nature came out. He became so increasingly self centred, only met me once in a month when it was convenient for him. Only spoke on the phone when it was convenient for him and never took my calls otherwise. He used to take ages to reply to my messages and I started suspecting him of cheating on me.
However, the truth is - he is a self entered guy with no empathy for anyone and he can't even relate to any of my emotions. On several occasions I have told him his behaviour upsets me and makes me feel unwanted. His usual response - what? I don't understand how I can possibly upset you?! It's you who doesn't give me time.
So it became clear that no matter how miserable I was, it wasn't going to make a difference to his life. I broke up with him day before yesterday and he didn't seem to be bothered. It's true he is not emotionally mature enough to consider anyone else's needs other than his own.
September 28, 2016 - 5:38amMy advice is to leave such people to fix themselves and mature! There are plenty of lovely people out there :)
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