It sounds like you have a spoiled boyfriend. After 9 months of getting served hand and foot without having to ask for anything, it becomes something that is more expected and less deserved. What you have to do now is break the habit of buying him things, no vacations, no more "babying" him. You're 19 and it sounds like you're a 40 something year old cougar dating a college boy. Sometimes men don't realize that all we want is some appreciation-- he thinks that because what you get him is materialistic, what he needs to give back should be tangible too, but he doesn't have the money. Cut him some slack, he's 19 and hasn't yet learned that a little caress and a simple thank you can go a long way in a woman's heart. If you want your relationship to go the distance, start letting him make the reservations at a restaurant, let him pick out next weekends activity and come to an agreement that if you pay for dinner, he'll pay for the movie and slowly break that habit of you being the sugar momma. Don't get me wrong, I know that you do this because you are a genuine and kind person, but it has backfired on you and it is not too late to fix it.
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Ladidadida,
It sounds like you have a spoiled boyfriend. After 9 months of getting served hand and foot without having to ask for anything, it becomes something that is more expected and less deserved. What you have to do now is break the habit of buying him things, no vacations, no more "babying" him. You're 19 and it sounds like you're a 40 something year old cougar dating a college boy. Sometimes men don't realize that all we want is some appreciation-- he thinks that because what you get him is materialistic, what he needs to give back should be tangible too, but he doesn't have the money. Cut him some slack, he's 19 and hasn't yet learned that a little caress and a simple thank you can go a long way in a woman's heart. If you want your relationship to go the distance, start letting him make the reservations at a restaurant, let him pick out next weekends activity and come to an agreement that if you pay for dinner, he'll pay for the movie and slowly break that habit of you being the sugar momma. Don't get me wrong, I know that you do this because you are a genuine and kind person, but it has backfired on you and it is not too late to fix it.
Best wishes,
Rosa
June 30, 2011 - 6:57amThis Comment
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