Your description of your relationship was interesting, as you said, "He really treated me really nice, loving and caring...", after you said you "found out he cheated on me...throughout our whole relationship".
It is really not up to anyone else to tell you if you should leave your boyfriend. You know what most women would say, right? Are you wanting a lot of women to say "dump him!" so you feel better about your decision, as you have all of the information to make an informed choice about your future.
- What is your definition of "love" in a romantic relationship?
- What type of relationship do you want for yourself in the future?
- Do you want to be with a person who is equally committed to the relationship, in the same way, that you are?
- Do you want a mutually-exclusive and mutually monogamous relationship?
- Are you wanting to have this type of "open relationship"?
My assumption, since you said you "felt like dying" (once you learned your bf is cheating on you...even though you already knew this information before when he had an STD!) is that you are leaving a lot of your power and choices about life up to a person who does not have your best interests as HIS best interests. It sounds like you do not want an "open relationship", and since your boyfriend obviously does, this relationship is not compatible. What does it mean to you if your boyfriend is "remorseful"? Of course he will be...he got caught, and we all are remorseful if we get caught doing something. Why would your bf change, if he can have a relationship with you and continue seeing other people. Your actions are telling him that the current relationship is OK with you...even when you are telling us in words that it is not OK with you.
Actions speak louder than words, and his actions are telling you that he has never been as committed as you have been in his relationship with you. Your actions up until now have been showing him that you don't care how you are treated (you had information he was cheating, but "pretended" not to know), and your actions in the future will be telling in regards to what type of person you think you deserve to be with. Do you deserve to be the only woman in a man's life? Absolutely! If you don't think you deserve this, please talk with a psychologist who can help you find your own self worth and how to find friends (and eventually romantic partners) who value you as much as you value yourself.
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Your description of your relationship was interesting, as you said, "He really treated me really nice, loving and caring...", after you said you "found out he cheated on me...throughout our whole relationship".
It is really not up to anyone else to tell you if you should leave your boyfriend. You know what most women would say, right? Are you wanting a lot of women to say "dump him!" so you feel better about your decision, as you have all of the information to make an informed choice about your future.
- What is your definition of "love" in a romantic relationship?
- What type of relationship do you want for yourself in the future?
- Do you want to be with a person who is equally committed to the relationship, in the same way, that you are?
- Do you want a mutually-exclusive and mutually monogamous relationship?
- Are you wanting to have this type of "open relationship"?
My assumption, since you said you "felt like dying" (once you learned your bf is cheating on you...even though you already knew this information before when he had an STD!) is that you are leaving a lot of your power and choices about life up to a person who does not have your best interests as HIS best interests. It sounds like you do not want an "open relationship", and since your boyfriend obviously does, this relationship is not compatible. What does it mean to you if your boyfriend is "remorseful"? Of course he will be...he got caught, and we all are remorseful if we get caught doing something. Why would your bf change, if he can have a relationship with you and continue seeing other people. Your actions are telling him that the current relationship is OK with you...even when you are telling us in words that it is not OK with you.
Actions speak louder than words, and his actions are telling you that he has never been as committed as you have been in his relationship with you. Your actions up until now have been showing him that you don't care how you are treated (you had information he was cheating, but "pretended" not to know), and your actions in the future will be telling in regards to what type of person you think you deserve to be with. Do you deserve to be the only woman in a man's life? Absolutely! If you don't think you deserve this, please talk with a psychologist who can help you find your own self worth and how to find friends (and eventually romantic partners) who value you as much as you value yourself.
August 7, 2011 - 6:53amThis Comment
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