I think the real issue with women having children older is that men are taking their time asking for marriage. I'm 40, and have dated several men for long durations, hoping they were 'the one'. It never happened. Now that I'm 40, I've met someone and we're talking about marriage and the possibility of having a child or two (and obviously the risks involved). What disheartens me or what has in the past, my male gynecologist who every year would ask, "When are you going to start having children? You're getting older and the older you get the more you should think about NOT having them." FIRST OFF, to have a child out of wedlock 'just because' I'm getting older doesn't sound ideal in the least bit. Who wants to struggle being a single mom? Hell, my mother had three of us and after her divorce, I had no idea who she was or if I even liked her (she had to work to make ends meet and let’s just say she wasn't happy about it). Second, BECAUSE men are taking longer to ‘pop-the-question’, we women NEED to focus on our careers to provide for ourselves and our questionable futures. This is more of the case than women WANTING to focus on their careers before settling down, getting married and having children. The majority of my girlfriends are older and having (or not having due to their age after getting married) children and not because they wanted a higher education and/or a successful career, it’s because they’ve dated men whose outlook towards marriage is surly negative due to gold diggers and women taking ‘half’ of everything they own after the downfall of the marriage. Hell, I wouldn’t want to get married when the milk is free and I have no obligations for support after the demise of the contract! I think the real issue with women having children when their older is not the security that usually entails when doing so, it’s because of our society and how we promote a lack of devotion and sanctity to the art of marriage. Raise your sons better, show them that marriage is nothing to be afraid of and that loving and devoting yourself to family is beautiful in itself -- oh young moms out there -- and the future will be brighter and healthier for the next generations that decide to have children in their 30’s instead of their 40’s (hopefully after being newlyweds a few years). And, I no longer have a male gynecologist.
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I think the real issue with women having children older is that men are taking their time asking for marriage. I'm 40, and have dated several men for long durations, hoping they were 'the one'. It never happened. Now that I'm 40, I've met someone and we're talking about marriage and the possibility of having a child or two (and obviously the risks involved). What disheartens me or what has in the past, my male gynecologist who every year would ask, "When are you going to start having children? You're getting older and the older you get the more you should think about NOT having them." FIRST OFF, to have a child out of wedlock 'just because' I'm getting older doesn't sound ideal in the least bit. Who wants to struggle being a single mom? Hell, my mother had three of us and after her divorce, I had no idea who she was or if I even liked her (she had to work to make ends meet and let’s just say she wasn't happy about it). Second, BECAUSE men are taking longer to ‘pop-the-question’, we women NEED to focus on our careers to provide for ourselves and our questionable futures. This is more of the case than women WANTING to focus on their careers before settling down, getting married and having children. The majority of my girlfriends are older and having (or not having due to their age after getting married) children and not because they wanted a higher education and/or a successful career, it’s because they’ve dated men whose outlook towards marriage is surly negative due to gold diggers and women taking ‘half’ of everything they own after the downfall of the marriage. Hell, I wouldn’t want to get married when the milk is free and I have no obligations for support after the demise of the contract! I think the real issue with women having children when their older is not the security that usually entails when doing so, it’s because of our society and how we promote a lack of devotion and sanctity to the art of marriage. Raise your sons better, show them that marriage is nothing to be afraid of and that loving and devoting yourself to family is beautiful in itself -- oh young moms out there -- and the future will be brighter and healthier for the next generations that decide to have children in their 30’s instead of their 40’s (hopefully after being newlyweds a few years). And, I no longer have a male gynecologist.
July 21, 2011 - 10:43amThis Comment
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