I guess I have to accept #1's decision, while #2, he had not denied his child per se. I think I had framed it incorrectly, he really loves his child but he has had to deal with the ex and the child constantly. It does affect him, but I wish he had been honest and truthful from day 1 so that I would have made a wise decision regarding both relationships. In addition, he had tried to save the marriage over the child for two years before he decided to sign the divorce papers. However, I don't even know what the status is of the pending divorce.
I do feel lost and uncertain now and not sure if I can trust men in that way again. In my youth, I used to braid fairytales i guess of the ideal prince charming and after being duped so many times I question it myself.
#2 views me as a breath of fresh air but the baggage does come with him and its something I have had to overlook so many times. His family is aware of me, but they have not decided to make any move until my parents are made aware of his baggage. Nowadays arranged marriages in India are quite different as they used to be, couples are allowed to date before marriage. Yes, I know. I plan to start my phd program next Fall. The only reason that worries me is that I want to settle down soon. I am tired of these love games, and #1 whom I trusted with all my heart and soul he just left me within a day.
Until now the men whom I have found have complicated my life, not complemented it (and I am beginning to lose hope now)
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I guess I have to accept #1's decision, while #2, he had not denied his child per se. I think I had framed it incorrectly, he really loves his child but he has had to deal with the ex and the child constantly. It does affect him, but I wish he had been honest and truthful from day 1 so that I would have made a wise decision regarding both relationships. In addition, he had tried to save the marriage over the child for two years before he decided to sign the divorce papers. However, I don't even know what the status is of the pending divorce.
September 12, 2011 - 12:58pmI do feel lost and uncertain now and not sure if I can trust men in that way again. In my youth, I used to braid fairytales i guess of the ideal prince charming and after being duped so many times I question it myself.
#2 views me as a breath of fresh air but the baggage does come with him and its something I have had to overlook so many times. His family is aware of me, but they have not decided to make any move until my parents are made aware of his baggage. Nowadays arranged marriages in India are quite different as they used to be, couples are allowed to date before marriage. Yes, I know. I plan to start my phd program next Fall. The only reason that worries me is that I want to settle down soon. I am tired of these love games, and #1 whom I trusted with all my heart and soul he just left me within a day.
Until now the men whom I have found have complicated my life, not complemented it (and I am beginning to lose hope now)
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