dear anon, its a surprise to know that there is someone suffering exactly like me..we were officially engaged for a year but we were living in seperate countries.. he was the most romantic most loving and caring guy i've ever met.. i thought finally i got my dream guy..he was always telling me that he misses me and he cant wait for us to get married and live together.. he used to call me dozens of times per day (international calls)...he was sincere and i believed him..now we are married for just six months and im also pregnant (i love my baby and i think its the best thing that ever happened to me) since the first day of our married life i've sensed something is wrong..
preperations for marriage were hectic i was sooooo stressed and i did everything by myself and with the help of my family.. he didnt contirbute directly cuz he was away but even then he was concerned and called to know the details..he really cared..
when we were done with the wedding i was soooo tired n still stressed and i couldnt enjoy my honey moon...and he had something to do with it....after marriage he wasnt as half as the romantic guy i was engaged too...he was trying to be romantic and caring but it wasn't enough..maybe i was expecting more but he promised me much more..
during engagement he was that easy going guy and we had lots of common interests..after marriage we disagree about almost everything...i was very honest and open during engagement and i wasnt pretending... now i dono if he was the one pretending or he was just changed!
i know that marriage isnt a picnic but it shouldnt be so hard...romance isnt the most important thing in marriage but its the glue that holds everything together and makes life easier and not just a boring routine..if he is acting cold 6 months after marriage what wil he do after 5 years!
when we argue he turns into a teenager..he gets really mad easilly and leaves the house...i would accept that if i hurt him or it was a huge fight...but even if we argue on a silly matter he behaves the same way instead of sitting down and talk like adults..the funny thing is that he promised me before that when we argue if we argued! that he will never let me be upset about it and he will never let me go to bed mad...........after marriage its a normal thing that i'm left alone without appologizing and he could not speak for me for days...he always thinks he didnt do anything wrong..and im the one picking a fight...and its not true..if i was happy and satisfied i would never think of arguing...
sex...same as above..and i dont want to beg for it...he should be asking for it or else i dont need it...im also attractive and starting to doubt that because of his attitude :(
he is generally a good decent guy..i'm sure he is not cheating..and he has other good points..he says he love me and i believe him...but its a silent love...its between him and himself...its like a secret lool he doesnt wanna show it properly or somehting..i donno..i just wonder why he changed so fast! and what will happen next?
i did talk about it but he thinks he is not doing anything wrong and i should be grateful because other husbands r worse!!!! no comment
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dear anon, its a surprise to know that there is someone suffering exactly like me..we were officially engaged for a year but we were living in seperate countries.. he was the most romantic most loving and caring guy i've ever met.. i thought finally i got my dream guy..he was always telling me that he misses me and he cant wait for us to get married and live together.. he used to call me dozens of times per day (international calls)...he was sincere and i believed him..now we are married for just six months and im also pregnant (i love my baby and i think its the best thing that ever happened to me) since the first day of our married life i've sensed something is wrong..
preperations for marriage were hectic i was sooooo stressed and i did everything by myself and with the help of my family.. he didnt contirbute directly cuz he was away but even then he was concerned and called to know the details..he really cared..
when we were done with the wedding i was soooo tired n still stressed and i couldnt enjoy my honey moon...and he had something to do with it....after marriage he wasnt as half as the romantic guy i was engaged too...he was trying to be romantic and caring but it wasn't enough..maybe i was expecting more but he promised me much more..
during engagement he was that easy going guy and we had lots of common interests..after marriage we disagree about almost everything...i was very honest and open during engagement and i wasnt pretending... now i dono if he was the one pretending or he was just changed!
i know that marriage isnt a picnic but it shouldnt be so hard...romance isnt the most important thing in marriage but its the glue that holds everything together and makes life easier and not just a boring routine..if he is acting cold 6 months after marriage what wil he do after 5 years!
when we argue he turns into a teenager..he gets really mad easilly and leaves the house...i would accept that if i hurt him or it was a huge fight...but even if we argue on a silly matter he behaves the same way instead of sitting down and talk like adults..the funny thing is that he promised me before that when we argue if we argued! that he will never let me be upset about it and he will never let me go to bed mad...........after marriage its a normal thing that i'm left alone without appologizing and he could not speak for me for days...he always thinks he didnt do anything wrong..and im the one picking a fight...and its not true..if i was happy and satisfied i would never think of arguing...
sex...same as above..and i dont want to beg for it...he should be asking for it or else i dont need it...im also attractive and starting to doubt that because of his attitude :(
he is generally a good decent guy..i'm sure he is not cheating..and he has other good points..he says he love me and i believe him...but its a silent love...its between him and himself...its like a secret lool he doesnt wanna show it properly or somehting..i donno..i just wonder why he changed so fast! and what will happen next?
i did talk about it but he thinks he is not doing anything wrong and i should be grateful because other husbands r worse!!!! no comment
plz advise
January 4, 2012 - 1:04pmThis Comment
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