I have a similar issue. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We are both happy and in love we don't live together but we spend many nights in the week together. Everything else in the relationship is great we travel and date etc. But sex! I'm 23 and maybe I do have a high sex drive but its not a bad thing. He is 29 and has a stressful job, he is pretty much always 'too tired' for sex, when we do have sex (a small victory usually after I have nagged for a while) he seems to enjoy it. I can't shake it because every time he says no it kills my confidence, when I stay at his apartment I make a point of going to bed earlier than usual hoping he will follow and won't use the excuse. But usually he will stay up with his housemates or finishes watching whatever is on TV, makes his way to bed and drums up the "I have to get up early babe" excuse. I want to have crazy spontaneous sex, I want us to do everything together, try every position, find out each others weird likes and spend the rest of our lives obsessed with each other. He has already started using the "I'm getting old" excuse.... 29! What hope am I supposed to have for the future? I know he watches porn, usually on the days/evening we spend apart. I can't be angry because I watch it too being that I am constantly frustrated. But how can he actively watch other people fuck and still turn me down. We do talk and he is serious about us being open and trying to 'fix' it, but nothing ever changes a few months pass and I get upset again and we have the argument all over again. Am I the villain of our relationship because I want to turn him on, I want him to seduce me and I have such low expectations now, we don't have kids we don't live together we aren't married. This should be our honeymoon period.
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I have a similar issue. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We are both happy and in love we don't live together but we spend many nights in the week together. Everything else in the relationship is great we travel and date etc. But sex! I'm 23 and maybe I do have a high sex drive but its not a bad thing. He is 29 and has a stressful job, he is pretty much always 'too tired' for sex, when we do have sex (a small victory usually after I have nagged for a while) he seems to enjoy it. I can't shake it because every time he says no it kills my confidence, when I stay at his apartment I make a point of going to bed earlier than usual hoping he will follow and won't use the excuse. But usually he will stay up with his housemates or finishes watching whatever is on TV, makes his way to bed and drums up the "I have to get up early babe" excuse. I want to have crazy spontaneous sex, I want us to do everything together, try every position, find out each others weird likes and spend the rest of our lives obsessed with each other. He has already started using the "I'm getting old" excuse.... 29! What hope am I supposed to have for the future? I know he watches porn, usually on the days/evening we spend apart. I can't be angry because I watch it too being that I am constantly frustrated. But how can he actively watch other people fuck and still turn me down. We do talk and he is serious about us being open and trying to 'fix' it, but nothing ever changes a few months pass and I get upset again and we have the argument all over again. Am I the villain of our relationship because I want to turn him on, I want him to seduce me and I have such low expectations now, we don't have kids we don't live together we aren't married. This should be our honeymoon period.
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March 25, 2017 - 10:21amThis Comment
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