I understand why somebody could think it is their fault, even though it is not. Men tend to pressure women for sex and they don't seem to realize it is pressure by repeatedly making comments, touching, kissing, or any sort of contact in which a woman must constantly be drawing the line. And they continue to try to push the line further and further and further and it's unacceptable. When women first draw the line and say that is as far as she wants to go at that point in time, and then a man pushes those boundaries, he is breaking the rules and purposely trying to put things into his favor. Regardless of whether a women eventually gives in to the pressure or if she thinks she may have said something to have been unclear, if she started out by saying NO, and he continued to push, then she had to somehow find the strength to push him off it is still not her fault.
Men need to learn to listen. No DOES mean NO. Not, keep asking until I'm tired of pushing you away. Sometimes women are afraid of ruining things completely and don't want to come across as being too cold shouldered. It's difficult to know where to draw the line. But we shouldn't be pressured into doing things we don't want to do just because we are afraid of complete rejection. Or sometimes, men may try to make women feel guilty for "teasing" them and not following through with sex. It's a basic manipulation strategy, but it works and it's a form of rape.
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I understand why somebody could think it is their fault, even though it is not. Men tend to pressure women for sex and they don't seem to realize it is pressure by repeatedly making comments, touching, kissing, or any sort of contact in which a woman must constantly be drawing the line. And they continue to try to push the line further and further and further and it's unacceptable. When women first draw the line and say that is as far as she wants to go at that point in time, and then a man pushes those boundaries, he is breaking the rules and purposely trying to put things into his favor. Regardless of whether a women eventually gives in to the pressure or if she thinks she may have said something to have been unclear, if she started out by saying NO, and he continued to push, then she had to somehow find the strength to push him off it is still not her fault.
Men need to learn to listen. No DOES mean NO. Not, keep asking until I'm tired of pushing you away. Sometimes women are afraid of ruining things completely and don't want to come across as being too cold shouldered. It's difficult to know where to draw the line. But we shouldn't be pressured into doing things we don't want to do just because we are afraid of complete rejection. Or sometimes, men may try to make women feel guilty for "teasing" them and not following through with sex. It's a basic manipulation strategy, but it works and it's a form of rape.
March 27, 2013 - 4:57pmThis Comment
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