I am a male so I thought I would give my point of view because my relationship has been though/currently working on this.
There were a few reasons why I chose to take care of myself instead of being intimate. One, we were fighting about a lot of little things, not crazy more like nagging and constant so I didn’t want to have sex with someone that just got mad at me a few minutes ago because she had filled the water bowl more times this week. The second was we both feel into a rut and lost some fitness and sexual appeal. When a man gets out of shape and starts losing testosterone his libido goes down. And believe it or not, when a man doesn’t feel good about his body it can have an effect as well. Third, and I think the biggest one, was I wanted to explore sexually and she wasn’t receptive and open. I wasn’t getting what I wanted to it made sex feel...less. So it just seemed easier to do it myself. *And I don’t know if this is TMI so stop reading now if you are sensitive.* The things I wanted to try/do were more than most people do. I really like to end sex with a bj and wanted to try after anal. I also wanted to try more in the shower and try water sports. There were some other things but these two highlight my point. I wanted them and I couldn’t help feeling ...less from sex when I really wanted to try. Well it took us almost breaking up for me to be honest and open so I told her all of the three things I said before were very important. Well the first two were easy, we tried hard and resisted fighting. We went for more walks and activities. The sex stuff was a little harder because even though I wanted them I could understand the hesitation. But she knew they were important to me and tried. She eventually learned to not hate/like doing them with me because she saw how much it made me happy and meant to me. Because I was satisfied I wanted to do more for her and make her happy. She wanted me to choke pretty hard, wanted to perform anal on me, and much more oral on her. Well the first two things were hard for me but I wanted to make her as happy as I was. We still have some issues but things are a LOT better now.
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I am a male so I thought I would give my point of view because my relationship has been though/currently working on this.
There were a few reasons why I chose to take care of myself instead of being intimate. One, we were fighting about a lot of little things, not crazy more like nagging and constant so I didn’t want to have sex with someone that just got mad at me a few minutes ago because she had filled the water bowl more times this week. The second was we both feel into a rut and lost some fitness and sexual appeal. When a man gets out of shape and starts losing testosterone his libido goes down. And believe it or not, when a man doesn’t feel good about his body it can have an effect as well. Third, and I think the biggest one, was I wanted to explore sexually and she wasn’t receptive and open. I wasn’t getting what I wanted to it made sex feel...less. So it just seemed easier to do it myself. *And I don’t know if this is TMI so stop reading now if you are sensitive.* The things I wanted to try/do were more than most people do. I really like to end sex with a bj and wanted to try after anal. I also wanted to try more in the shower and try water sports. There were some other things but these two highlight my point. I wanted them and I couldn’t help feeling ...less from sex when I really wanted to try. Well it took us almost breaking up for me to be honest and open so I told her all of the three things I said before were very important. Well the first two were easy, we tried hard and resisted fighting. We went for more walks and activities. The sex stuff was a little harder because even though I wanted them I could understand the hesitation. But she knew they were important to me and tried. She eventually learned to not hate/like doing them with me because she saw how much it made me happy and meant to me. Because I was satisfied I wanted to do more for her and make her happy. She wanted me to choke pretty hard, wanted to perform anal on me, and much more oral on her. Well the first two things were hard for me but I wanted to make her as happy as I was. We still have some issues but things are a LOT better now.
December 5, 2012 - 3:40pmThis Comment
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