I am in a similar situation also. My husband of 2 years can't have intercourse with me. I have always blamed his diabetes but I'm not so sure. He can masterbate (still can't get hard but can get himself to climax) and we will do that together for our "sex" but we have never been able to have actual intercourse. He was single for 13 years before and respectibly didn't sleep around during that time but he did please himself often, he says 3-4 times a day with porn. So when we first got together I figured he had just conditioned himself to climax with porn but would soon be able to do so with just me and who knows maybe even be able to get hard enough for sex. Here we are almost 3 years later and he still watches porn daily and will get turned on by that and then ask me to "help" him. I am ALWAYS willing and have never said no. I find he has such an issue with delayed self gratification that, like tonight, I got home at 10 pm from my sons football game and looked at his history on his computer and there was porn for 3 straight hours including right up to 945 pm. So he helped himself just 10-15 minutes before I got home knowing I was on my way home. I feel cheated and cheated on daily. He said it's more "efficient" for him to do this alone. Really?? Efficient??? What about me? What about my need for sex?? Not to mention our intimacy?? A few months ago he saw an email from a potential client from my work and it was inappropriate to say the least so he was so angry and told everyone I cheated on him. So he thinks that an email that I never read or responded to was cheating but him lusting after women on porn isn't. I don't understand. I would think that knowing he can't perform and please me that way he would go over and above to keep me sexually satisfied but I am so wrong I guess. For a long time he wouldn't lie about but now I have made it such a big deal he will lie about it so now I feel like a nagging wife and I hate that!! Also, in the recent past I was wanting his "help" for satisfaction and asked daily for 7 days and finally did it alone because he wouldn't help me. I am hurt, angry, bitter and just don't understand and would love some help or advice.
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I am in a similar situation also. My husband of 2 years can't have intercourse with me. I have always blamed his diabetes but I'm not so sure. He can masterbate (still can't get hard but can get himself to climax) and we will do that together for our "sex" but we have never been able to have actual intercourse. He was single for 13 years before and respectibly didn't sleep around during that time but he did please himself often, he says 3-4 times a day with porn. So when we first got together I figured he had just conditioned himself to climax with porn but would soon be able to do so with just me and who knows maybe even be able to get hard enough for sex. Here we are almost 3 years later and he still watches porn daily and will get turned on by that and then ask me to "help" him. I am ALWAYS willing and have never said no. I find he has such an issue with delayed self gratification that, like tonight, I got home at 10 pm from my sons football game and looked at his history on his computer and there was porn for 3 straight hours including right up to 945 pm. So he helped himself just 10-15 minutes before I got home knowing I was on my way home. I feel cheated and cheated on daily. He said it's more "efficient" for him to do this alone. Really?? Efficient??? What about me? What about my need for sex?? Not to mention our intimacy?? A few months ago he saw an email from a potential client from my work and it was inappropriate to say the least so he was so angry and told everyone I cheated on him. So he thinks that an email that I never read or responded to was cheating but him lusting after women on porn isn't. I don't understand. I would think that knowing he can't perform and please me that way he would go over and above to keep me sexually satisfied but I am so wrong I guess. For a long time he wouldn't lie about but now I have made it such a big deal he will lie about it so now I feel like a nagging wife and I hate that!! Also, in the recent past I was wanting his "help" for satisfaction and asked daily for 7 days and finally did it alone because he wouldn't help me. I am hurt, angry, bitter and just don't understand and would love some help or advice.
October 3, 2015 - 1:15amThis Comment
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