This is something that I never would have expected from my husband.....and I'm at a loss how to handle it. He's home much of the day. His drinking has increased...we've not had good sex (except for his drunken attempts..that leave me totally frustrated and unsatisfied) in several months or maybe close to a year now.
A few weeks ago, I found a 'clip' of porn that apparently he had been watching...but the file had been removed so I couldn't trace it. I let it go...didn't ask. Last week I had an errand to run and stopped at home to drop off my purchases. I walk into the computer room and see him sitting at the computer nude from the waist down holding his penis...he had a library of videos that he seemed to be browsing through and didn't hear me come in the room. I just said "Well I guess I don't have to ask what you are doing." He was startled and just said, "Nope...What are you doing home?" I was so mortified...I just left.
He calls me hours later, when I didn't come straight home from work and says he doesn't know why I am mad at him..."You didn't see anything and you're mistaken about what you did see". REALLY????
I've tried talking about it, but he clams up and won't discuss it.
Have any of you ladies found a way to deal with this? I'm hurt and I don't know how to get past this...We've been married for 16 yrs and have had many ups and downs..but we always got past it and I truly love him. I'm at a loss..
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This is something that I never would have expected from my husband.....and I'm at a loss how to handle it. He's home much of the day. His drinking has increased...we've not had good sex (except for his drunken attempts..that leave me totally frustrated and unsatisfied) in several months or maybe close to a year now.
May 16, 2017 - 8:28amA few weeks ago, I found a 'clip' of porn that apparently he had been watching...but the file had been removed so I couldn't trace it. I let it go...didn't ask. Last week I had an errand to run and stopped at home to drop off my purchases. I walk into the computer room and see him sitting at the computer nude from the waist down holding his penis...he had a library of videos that he seemed to be browsing through and didn't hear me come in the room. I just said "Well I guess I don't have to ask what you are doing." He was startled and just said, "Nope...What are you doing home?" I was so mortified...I just left.
He calls me hours later, when I didn't come straight home from work and says he doesn't know why I am mad at him..."You didn't see anything and you're mistaken about what you did see". REALLY????
I've tried talking about it, but he clams up and won't discuss it.
Have any of you ladies found a way to deal with this? I'm hurt and I don't know how to get past this...We've been married for 16 yrs and have had many ups and downs..but we always got past it and I truly love him. I'm at a loss..
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