Wow! I almost felt like I was writing your story. My boyfriend too will never initiate sex, and other than pecks in the lips (which do happen regularly) sometimes, all I want is a nice juicy kiss that lets me know the spark is still there... But none... And he constantly denies me in sex. I try to kiss him, touch him and arouse him in all ways possible and the answer is "I don't want you to get mad at me, but I can't tonight." And I too, found out he cheated on me multiple times. One was with a girl he actively talked to for months and when out of town, allegiably got drunk and "happened" he doesn't know I know about the other girls, but in lue of that first cheat, I found out that recently, he's been going on websites to look for women and started resourcing to previous girls he used to mess with before we got together. Sexting and telling them what he wanted to do to them and another girl he recently met who seem to have absolutely no problem with being just a sex object. I moved past it, but it does hurt that he saw those women attractive and had the energy to have sex with them and encouraging it, but not with me. I feel like my whole world is falling apart and I do question where our relationship stands. I don't doubt that he loves me, and I know his situation and why he would want to revel at the moment, but it is concerning that even when I actively offer to do all the work and actually do try every way possible to keep him and myself sexually happy. It worries me that he may not be. Idk!
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Wow! I almost felt like I was writing your story. My boyfriend too will never initiate sex, and other than pecks in the lips (which do happen regularly) sometimes, all I want is a nice juicy kiss that lets me know the spark is still there... But none... And he constantly denies me in sex. I try to kiss him, touch him and arouse him in all ways possible and the answer is "I don't want you to get mad at me, but I can't tonight." And I too, found out he cheated on me multiple times. One was with a girl he actively talked to for months and when out of town, allegiably got drunk and "happened" he doesn't know I know about the other girls, but in lue of that first cheat, I found out that recently, he's been going on websites to look for women and started resourcing to previous girls he used to mess with before we got together. Sexting and telling them what he wanted to do to them and another girl he recently met who seem to have absolutely no problem with being just a sex object. I moved past it, but it does hurt that he saw those women attractive and had the energy to have sex with them and encouraging it, but not with me. I feel like my whole world is falling apart and I do question where our relationship stands. I don't doubt that he loves me, and I know his situation and why he would want to revel at the moment, but it is concerning that even when I actively offer to do all the work and actually do try every way possible to keep him and myself sexually happy. It worries me that he may not be. Idk!
March 9, 2016 - 10:14amThis Comment
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